How much of a "DJ" or Alpha can you REALLY be if..

[djjizzyjeff]

How much of a "DJ" or "Alpha" can you REALLY be if you cannot get even ONE woman to commit to you till death do us part?

Most claim the lone "Alpha" wolf role not just because they don't want the risks of marriage but methinks also because they simply know they cannot find even ONE woman to commit to them for life.

It's one thing to claim on an internet forum you "get lots of chicks" and a whole different story to get even ONE of them to commit to you for life.

 

[Deep Dish]

Who gives a fück about lifelong commitment? Every relationship has a shelf life, an expiration date, so just kick back and enjoy the ride. There’s no point in artificially extending a relationship beyond its natural expiration date, vis a viz marriage. A successful relationship is measured in passion and desire, not duration.

 

[corrector]

I think that if someone is putting on a facade to get girls and attract them into their life and end up in marriage then down the road that girl may not accept the real inner "wuss" and betaness and lose attraction. Someone putting on a mask only has to have it in the short-term to attract women and get what their goals are before they start losing attraction.

That's why it's tricky because if at your core you are not really an alpha or DJ then your true self will eventually come out and if she doesn't accept that then you are toast.

That being said, with all the divorces that are occurring, getting someone to commit to life in vows to God doesn't mean much these days unless God really put it together. If you are using a marriage, engagement to extend a relationship that's lost it's energy to keep the punch going on, then what happens once that punch is gone and real life hits?

Espi also has an interesting point of dealing with many women rather than settling to someone so you are married. But I don't get how someone who is good with women is genuinely happy not fathering children, I mean isn't it a purpose of getting women to eventually have your own family and have some legacy here? Marriage is always a good base for that.

That's why when I read that book "The Game" and you read Style's exploits from where he started from to where he progressed then you'll see that he still failed in that book because he was still no better than when he started in the sense he had no wife and family. It was still all games and what not. Guess greed prevents that from happening.

 

[zekko]

How much of a "DJ" or "Alpha" can you REALLY be if you cannot get even ONE woman to commit to you till death do us part?

Most claim the lone "Alpha" wolf role not just because they don't want the risks of marriage but methinks also because they simply know they cannot find even ONE woman to commit to them for life.

It's one thing to claim on an internet forum you "get lots of chicks" and a whole different story to get even ONE of them to commit to you for life.

First off, you're not talking about real aphas here, you're talking about guys who read seduction material on the internet and pretend to be alphas.

Also, I don't think the point is that the alpha chooses to get married or not, the point is if a woman will be attracted to him enough to want to commit to him for life.

That said, I think you have a good point. Rollo likes to talk about "alpha widows", women who go out with an alpha, lose him, and then pine for him for the rest of their life. I think those women are pretty rare though, most women are skilled at moving on from relationships and get a lot of support for it. But I do agree with the premise that if you are really an alpha, women are going to want to be with you. That speaks of a man's desireability a lot more than a one time hookup in a bar, IMO.

 

[djjizzyjeff]

But I do agree with the premise that if you are really an alpha, women are going to want to be with you. That speaks of a man's desireability a lot more than a one time hookup in a bar, IMO.

That's what I'm talking about. It's great to say you don't plan on ever getting married due to the risks etc. and go from chick to chick, but if none of those same chicks ever truly wanted you more than you did them how much of a "DJ or Alpha" are you really?

 

[zekko]

That's what I'm talking about. It's great to say you don't plan on ever getting married due to the risks etc. and go from chick to chick, but if none of those same chicks ever truly wanted you more than you did them how much of a "DJ or Alpha" are you really?

It's funny because in PUA world, they try to tell you that the girl is really most hot for the guy she hooks up with in the alley of the club and then never wants to see again. But the guy she really wants to stay with "Oh, he's just a beta faggot".

 

[djjizzyjeff]

It's funny because in PUA world, they try to tell you that the girl is really most hot for the guy she hooks up with in the alley of the club and then never wants to see again. But the guy she really wants to stay with "Oh, he's just a beta faggot".

Oh hell yes. lol. Right, the guy every chick marries is either a "Beta", rich, or she's desperate. Can't be ANY other reason. lol

PUA's are nothing more than delusional dweebs who (I think) actually believe their own BS even moreso to convince themselves of their own fantasy "epicness" in order to scam the pathetically desperate.

I never bought into that PUA nonsense. When you hear them talk about "naturals" it's them admitting they have no clue and are friggin weirdos.


Most dudes who run around and like to hide behind a veil of "I'm just going to get as many chicks as I can because I'm a "Don" know deep down inside they are the type that can't get a chick to stay and use the "attacks" on "beta fools" who do get married as some sort of protective armor for their own lack of being able to actually make a woman want to stay.

All of the "Alphas" I ever knew or know all got married eventually (the rest are in prison for a long time, are dead or living somewhere else not by their own choice.). Guess the ones who did are all "beta" providers now? lol

There's a lot of extremely hurt dudes running around denying the obvious. If any dude was truly "alpha" he wouldn't care nor ever complain/rant about chicks period. Some dudes will go through life claiming their own "Alpha DJ" title because in all honesty they'll never be anything else.