how much is too much? line between AFC/Just being nice

[LandingWood]

What's the line when it comes to being "afc" and being just plain nice. I think I overdo the negging. Most girls I talk to think I'm an ******* or a jerk. Some I've smashed and some not. But on topic, when should you just be nice...? I can't put up with some of the bull**** females pull abd always call them on it...

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

You're only 18 (I'm not much older) but women are incredibly immature and drama oriented at that age, they also tend to be hypersensitive about a lot of crap.

From my experience, it depends on the girl and the situation. If you're just straight up being negative and a jerk all the time, then I'm not surprised girls don't want to get with you.

Be nice to a girl if she deserves it, don't blow smoke up her ass just to make her notice you, but if a girl is putting the attention into you, then being nice in return shows a returned interest.

Being AFC is when a girl can do no wrong and you stay stuck to her side. Men are nice and honest when they need to be, AFCs are nice because they'r desperate.

 

[TheSkyGlows]

Balance is the key. Be a jerk at one moment then recover with niceness after a while. Push and Pull. That will make you unpredictable. Girls obsessed themselves with anything they can't figure out.

 

[LandingWood]

Well I get the "you're an *******" from the same chicks that call me a jerk 10 mins later with a smile and a few that I've ****ed.

My problem is being nice and being afc all over a chick that I actually I've interest in. I don't want to be an ******* because I'm hiding my true interest but I don't want to be afc showing too much.

 

[JohnChops]

balance, yes i agree with that. you want to go for the nice jerk persona here. Youre 18, stay here a bit, stay away from the negative posters and youll learn something.

 

[om1xr]

Just don't be a boring guy because 99% of nice guys that i know are boring!
It's really simple:
- F*ck mentally/emotionally (Play with her emotions and make her spinning every time she see you spontaneously)
- Escalate physically and you know the rest!

 

[old_skoolr]

Your 18, the world is at your fingertips. When I was 18, I was looking to slam as many chicks as physically possible, taking em out for "coffee" or a nice "drive". I had no job, so I would basically take girls for a drive ( back then most girls I knew wouldnt drive) take em to some different places, tell some bullshi.t story bout sad things that I may or may not had made up, find a good spot to "relax" and go from there.

Dont worry, what women say about you. I used to get an a.sshole all the time, girls would hit me on the arm, tell me I'm mean...yet I'd have no problem escalating and banging em on the first date. Just enjoy smashing through them and dont worry about what comes out of their mouth.

 

[Renegade357]

What's the line when it comes to being "afc" and being just plain nice. I think I overdo the negging. Most girls I talk to think I'm an ******* or a jerk. Some I've smashed and some not. But on topic, when should you just be nice...? I can't put up with some of the bull**** females pull abd always call them on it...

Man, that negging crap is for guys who don't understand women and are gonna be single for the rest of their lives. Maybe it'll work once in a blue moon on a girl with 0 self esteem.

Just be a gentleman at all times and don't take crap from anyone. You'll go way further if you do that.

 

[HyperAnalyze]

You need to socially calibrate yourself to certain situations.

Look at the girl before you NEG.

Does she look like she'll be the person to take it the wrong way? Usually it only works on 9's or 10's

NEG because it is arising from you. Not because you want to put yourself in a power position.

A NEG that doesn't come from congruence is 90% going to fail because its in genuine.

When in doubt go FRIENDLY AND COOL METHOD. Just be friendly and cool.

 

[Renegade357]

When in doubt go FRIENDLY AND COOL METHOD. Just be friendly and cool.

Exactly. The fact that you're talking to her is big enough of a deal. I always say just be cool and be able to banter back and forth with a chick. If they can't do that or hold a simple conversation they aren't worth your time. And there's a lot of them out there like that unfortunately. I don't do well with stupid women.

 

[LandingWood]

The difference is that AFCs are nice because they are seeking approval and this shows.

Contrast this niceness to the attitude of that cool, friendly guy everyone loves. He's nice because he wants to be not because he feels like he has to.

And the difference shows.

I'm nog trying to be loved by everyone. Why should I care if everyone else loves me?

 

[LandingWood]

It's hard to understand TRP concepts and believe in them abd still respect women. It's hard not to be an ******* when you see the bull****.

 

[TheGambino]

You need to socially calibrate yourself to certain situations.

Look at the girl before you NEG.

Does she look like she'll be the person to take it the wrong way? Usually it only works on 9's or 10's

NEG because it is arising from you. Not because you want to put yourself in a power position.

A NEG that doesn't come from congruence is 90% going to fail because its in genuine.

When in doubt go FRIENDLY AND COOL METHOD. Just be friendly and cool.

Repped that. Neggs usually only work on 9's or 10's, its just true. Girls who get a lot of male attention, get it mostly in a nice way from all those AFC's youre going to stand out when you push/pull and negg her with confidence once in a while. It shows that you don't care to bust her balls, take a risk and lose her.

When she's a young girl that looks shy and in doubt about you, be friendly and cool like Hyperanalyze says. Show her that youre the cool guy who can make her laugh and take her out for a fun date. Don't negg or jerk around with these type of girls only with the b1tchy 9s and 10s.

Go for the safe road.

 

[LandingWood]

Repped that. Neggs usually only work on 9's or 10's, its just true. Girls who get a lot of male attention, get it mostly in a nice way from all those AFC's youre going to stand out when you push/pull and negg her with confidence once in a while. It shows that you don't care to bust her balls, take a risk and lose her.

When she's a young girl that looks shy and in doubt about you, be friendly and cool like Hyperanalyze says. Show her that youre the cool guy who can make her laugh and take her out for a fun date. Don't negg or jerk around with these type of girls only with the b1tchy 9s and 10s.

Go for the safe road.

This young girl who's shy as Hell and gives me so many IOIs like her and a group of mutual friends were talking **** and she turns to me and tell the group "Landingwood is funny! What do you think.about so and so?" But she's very shy and insecure I can tell. Same girl who calls me a jerk and Kinos. Am I too high value to her? Or am I such an ******* in her eyes that I'm not showing enough interest?