The difference is between attraction and seduction. An attractive man has women competing for his attention, attempting to seduce him.Augustus I think you would find me humble and gracious if you were to meet me in real life.
Around the forum I share my actual life experiences. I don't embellish nor exaggerate. I am direct and succinct because I don't think it serves the reader for me to be otherwise. I make no apologies for my confidence nor my life's course thus far.
I know the player types can be more likely to stray physically. But these are also men who as a rule do not open up emotionally. Once such a man establishes an emotional connection of depth and creates a bond, it is not easily broken. Real connection is not easily replaced.
Last night my ex BF was out at a very popular major metro nightclub surrounded by women. He can get laid just about at will. The women kept pestering him, propositioning him, asking who was he texting...why is he preoccupied with his phone at the club, etc., etc. He was texting me. Blowing up my phone actually. He walked out of the club, phoned me (I'm in another state so this was NOT a booty call -I don't do those EVER-), walked to his car, got in his car and wanted to chat with me. So he sat in the cold running the heater for 2 hours chatting with me. This is from midnight until 2am...so prime pick up hours. I could hear women coming up to the car window wanting his attention. He was waving them off and/or telling them to leave him alone. He misses me something fierce. He wanted to talk. He also needed to sober up before driving.
He got a burger on the way home, wanted to talk on the drive, got to his buddy's house (his buddy had already taken a plate home to bang) and sat in the car outside chatting to me for another 45 minutes or so. Finally he went inside. He's on the phone with me this entire time...the plate's friend is lying down on the couch at the buddy's house, waiting for him. He says hello to her, excuses himself and goes upstairs to bed. We remained on the phone and were on the phone until 6am. He's already called me 4 times today, starting at noon. Did he bang the friend after we hung up this morning? Maybe he did, maybe he didn't.
My point is he misses me. He can't replace the connection he has with me with hook-ups. He's tried. He told me he had gone on dates nearly daily for a while with different women and he is sick of it.
And he hates the idea of me seeing other men. He is realizing he might actually lose me for good. Loss can be a brutal teacher.
But had I been unwilling or unable to walk away from him, he'd never understand the void my leaving created in his life. You see he invested. He connected. But only now is my value in his life becoming evident.
So yes, I am well aware of what I am dealing with. And yes, I have more attention from men than I can accommodate in my schedule, so I get to be very choosy. Life is good.
To pursue any one woman, and to seduce her, is a Lone Wolf strategy. That doesn't mean that women do or should do the approaching. A man should invite a woman into his world. However, seduction is what happens next, when she makes it clear to him that she desires sex with him. Does this mean she shows up at his door with a birthday cake, and in her birthday suit? It happens (more or less), but no. It just means that she continually puts herself in his path, and creates opportunities to be alone with him. She wants to be chosen by him, and has chosen him to choose her.
A man walks up and introduces himself; whereas, a woman just keeps popping up wherever he is, until he does. If the roles were reversed, the man's behavior would be considered very feminine. Seduction isn't masculine behavior because it's executed through guile. A man may throw his misbehaving girl over his shoulder, carry her upstairs, and throw her down on the bed, but that isn't seduction.