"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How Much Is Enough To Impress Her?

bigneil

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I'm currently between contracts, and no matter how much a person earns in the previous year, it's stressful to find the next job, and it usually involves a relocation.

The most stressful part however, so much that it's almost a relief of sorts, is knowing that even when I was taking home the corp to corp equivalent of nearly $300,000 a year, and working from home for one of the top tech companies, I never got the impression from any women I dated that they considered me to be anywhere remotely close to financially successful.

Worse, they would even belittle my income and act dumbfounded when I reminded them that I'm was in the top 1% of earners. One, when I referred to taking home $4000 a week famously said "that's stripper money". When I asked her how, if she made "stripper money" she was so broke that she couldn't even pay her storage fee, she said "Easy come, easy go". BTW the average stripper makes $1000 a week and doesn't understand multiplication.

The point is, what women imagine as men who are "well off" requires a minimum of $1 Million in savings, a NICE house paid off, some independent source of income, and enough to blow thousands a week. Even millionaires I know don't blow money the way women seem to want to.

Even then, you really have to live in her home town or she won't get to brag as much to the people she wants to impress (her high school friends).

In other words, I estimate that to have enough to impress the modern woman, a man has to be in the top 1% of net worth, not just the top 1% of earners. What are our odds of achieving that?

And this even applies to women who mostly only wanted sex, women who worshiped me physically. They would be like "Wait, YOU have money?? But you rent!"

So I'm wondering, have you ever had a woman make you feel as though you were financially successful, and that she looked up to you in any way for your career or earning potential? If so, what did it take?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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mrgoodstuff

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I'm currently between contracts, and no matter how much a person earns in the previous year, it's stressful to find the next job, and it usually involves a relocation.

The most stressful part however, so much that it's almost a relief of sorts, is knowing that even when I was taking home the corp to corp equivalent of nearly $300,000 a year, and working from home for one of the top tech companies, I never got the impression from any women I dated that they considered me to be anywhere remotely close to financially successful.

Worse, they would even belittle my income and act dumbfounded when I reminded them that I'm was in the top 1% of earners. One, when I referred to taking home $4000 a week famously said "that's stripper money". When I asked her how, if she made "stripper money" she was so broke that she couldn't even pay her storage fee, she said "Easy come, easy go". BTW the average stripper makes $1000 a week and doesn't understand multiplication.

The point is, what women imagine as men who are "well off" requires a minimum of $1 Million in savings, a NICE house paid off, and some independent source of income, and enough to blow thousands a week. Even millionaires I know don't blow money the way women seem to want to.

Even then, you really have to live in her home town or she won't get to brag as much to the people she wants to impress (her high school friends).

In other words, you have to be in the 1% of net worth, not the 1% of earners. What are your odds of achieving that?

And this even applies to women who mostly only wanted sex, women who worshiped me physically. They would be like "Wait, YOU have money?? But you rent!"

So I'm wondering, have you ever had a woman make you feel as though you were financially successful, and that she looked up to you in any way for your career or earning potential? If so, what did it take?
Strippers have a certain game they are notorious for always putting them selves above people, it's done thru powerful projection and cut downs. So yeah, they know you make bank, but they won't let you feel good about it.

A "normal" woman would LOVE to have financial assistance and a man part of their picture who is set like you.
 

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Only about half the women I date are strippers lately, and frankly, the other half act like strippers.

But yes, strippers have a strange dynamic where they don't want to compliment you (beyond initial flattery) because it brings their price or perceived value down. They are likely to be the better looking one, but they also insist. It's like being all excited about a car, you have to pay more when you do that. They all have what I call their "token millionaire", someone with enough superficial signs of wealth (probably based on huge debt) that they feel excused from having to respect people who make a mere 400% what they make (all while celebrating themselves as being highly paid).

So if they make $100, it's a lot, but if you make $400, it's a pittance compared to Ralph who makes $2,000 a day.

I wouldn't say I'm set, but thanks. Man, I can sympathize with the younger guys trying to find work. I'm a 25 year pro and it's still unbelievably hard. This current job has spent 3 weeks prepping me just for a phone screen, including 3 reference checks, a standardized C++ 11 test, a 6 hour coding project, a standalone demo and youtube presentation.
 

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Bigneil, although my pad and lifestyle show, I don't disclose my income or worth to my prospects. I actually downplay my "worth," and make it clear that I won't marry, to vet gold-diggers.

Gaming on the shill of wealth will not create loyal prospects who genuinely desire you.

Further your title is misplaced: It should read, "How much is enough to impress YOU?" Pandering to another's impression of you will never work well.
 
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Why would you care? You are getting p ussy. I own a strip center and triplex both paid for. I own two vehicles paid for. I have a large amount of savings and a decent job.

I live in the triplex which is in the Hispanic part of town. It's not the best area. I still manage to date professional women and money is not discussed. If it is then that is a red flag. I won't be a provider to a spend thrift woman.

To put it in a nutshell idc if they look up to me. I'm not trying to impress them. If they want to hang with me great. If not there's the door.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm currently between contracts, and no matter how much a person earns in the previous year, it's stressful to find the next job, and it usually involves a relocation.

The most stressful part however, so much that it's almost a relief of sorts, is knowing that even when I was taking home the corp to corp equivalent of nearly $300,000 a year, and working from home for one of the top tech companies, I never got the impression from any women I dated that they considered me to be anywhere remotely close to financially successful.

Worse, they would even belittle my income and act dumbfounded when I reminded them that I'm was in the top 1% of earners. One, when I referred to taking home $4000 a week famously said "that's stripper money". When I asked her how, if she made "stripper money" she was so broke that she couldn't even pay her storage fee, she said "Easy come, easy go". BTW the average stripper makes $1000 a week and doesn't understand multiplication.

The point is, what women imagine as men who are "well off" requires a minimum of $1 Million in savings, a NICE house paid off, some independent source of income, and enough to blow thousands a week. Even millionaires I know don't blow money the way women seem to want to.

Even then, you really have to live in her home town or she won't get to brag as much to the people she wants to impress (her high school friends).

In other words, I estimate that to have enough to impress the modern woman, a man has to be in the top 1% of net worth, not just the top 1% of earners. What are our odds of achieving that?

And this even applies to women who mostly only wanted sex, women who worshiped me physically. They would be like "Wait, YOU have money?? But you rent!"

So I'm wondering, have you ever had a woman make you feel as though you were financially successful, and that she looked up to you in any way for your career or earning potential? If so, what did it take?
What you make no matter how much or how little is no ones business except your own. Never discuss your finances with a plateor a girlfriend because again; it's none of their business. Any woman who sticks their nose in your finances and isnt your wife or financial advisor is a huge red flag for a gold digger and you need to tell them to take a walk.
 

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You gotta have a chick like you for who you are, how much your character value is, not how much your strawman value is. Just bang the rest, but don't care about them. But holy ****, where the heck are we gonna find girls like that actually value men for being men???
 

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If she ask about your bank account run unless she's Persian :p

Also, remember a high value woman won't care about your income cause she probably saw everything.

Save it, invest it, enjoy your life. Don't display cause it might be bragging
 
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