"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Once you've created a bond w/ a lady and start to take it to the next level, I notice that I get these AFC thoughts in my head constantly.

After "making love" (what a bull**** term) I get the desire to be all mushy and tell her how I feel about her. Thanks to this site, I know not to ever say anything, but how can I condition myself to not have these thoughts?

On the other hand I don't want to grow cold. If I am w/ someone and want to develop a loving relationship, I realize that you still have to not only compliment them, but also show her you care and a sensitive side as well.

I try to keep a good balance of DJ / sensitive guy. For example today when she said I love you, I replied awwww baby thats sooo sweet paused then said I wish I could say the same After some chuckles and we were back to normal, in the most sincere tone, I told her that I loved her too.

So how can I slow down these AFC thoughts and what is the right balance of DJ vs showing you care.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by MacAvoy
On the other hand I don't want to grow cold. If I am w/ someone and want to develop a loving relationship, I realize that you still have to not only compliment them, but also show her you care and a sensitive side as well.
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Be the man that she fell in love with. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!
 
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I think this problem is the worst part of relationships. you can't be your self or say good things to each other in a healthy way.

I don't know, maybe it's just a biological thing that women don't want to be treated well.

Actually, they say they want good treatment, but reject it when they get it. It's masochism, which is psychological disorder, and most women have a small degree of it, even though fortunately, most aren't full-blown.
 
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