"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How much does inner state/thought affect/matter?

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I have an answer,I would just like some feedback,because this is a big part of what I think is holding me back. I just cannot ever seem to feel good/motivated/energized/confident,and when I do,it's usually when I am at work,up,out,doing something,around people, and there maybe times when I don't even realize it. Ever heard the song depression by Black Flag,that is how I always feel. I mean,I hardly go out,have few freinds,and always feel like I am not the person I want to be,not happy with myself,and not attractive,like I don't have the goods,the numerous list of those that attract.
I am also concerned it may be some stunted growth things,as in emotinal/maturation type of things. So what Can I do? Seriously,I find myself going for very long periods without seeing someone/dating someone/no action,and it gets to me,esp seeing everyone else together. It just like its not there,the meeting,greeting,mating thing. Like I don't know the steps,like its a social/mental block.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What are you doing to further your life?

What are you doing to achieve yoru goals of your Personal Mission Statement?

Your Life and your Personal Mission Statement are supposed to be your Number One Priority.

You should be looking at ways to improve yourself, and maximize your strengths , work on your weaknesses, work on eliminating your fears, and enhancing your life.


What makes you happy?


If money were no object, what kind of life woudl you live?


IF you can have any career in the world, what would it be?


If you feel your life isnt good enough for you, then WHY do you NEED any MORE MOtivationthanthe simple fact that you are not happy?
And make the realziationthat NO ONE can CREATE your life but YOU.


YOU are RESPONSIBLE for your LIFE and YOU HAPPINESS and WELL BEING.

YOU.


If youre not happy, its because YOU have CHOSEN NOT to be HAPPY.


Write out a list of things you want to change /enhance/ improve about yourself.

About your appearance and body

About your career and career goals

About your health

About your wealth

About your social life

About your romantic life

what kinds of spiritual beliefs do you have?


What kinds of hobbies do you like?

Do you even HAVE any hobbies?

Where do you see yourself in five years?

Where do you see yourself in 20 years?


What would you want to be written about you and your life in your Obituary?


If there were ONE thing in the world that truly makes you smile, what would it be?


The only thing that will keep you strong when you are alone is the SATISFACTION in the KNOWING that you are WORKING towards your GOALS.

For a good, fulfilling and MEANINGFUL LIFE


What resources do you need to have that kind of lIfe?


Read this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=141177

Think deeply on this. I mena REALLY really investigate and research what Im talkng about there.


You know how people say : "you cant take it with you"

You better start thinking on developing the things that YOU CAN!


Most lottery winners LOSE all their winnings inthe FIRST YEAR.

Most rich people are NOT HAPPIER than the average middle class person


Moist of them spend a lot of their times just trying to ho9ld on to it, in an anxious and scarcity mindset. Trying to keep others down.

For what?

If its not MONEY that makes us happy, and its been PROVEN it is not, then what the Hell is it?


THIS is what YOU SHOULD be looking into
 
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What makes me happy? I don't know. Like all around the time happyness,or brief happyness? I am not happy,and why I haven't done anything to change that,I am not sure.It's like I am locked in this constant state.

In terms of actually furthering my life,getting where I need to go,I feel I have been doing very little for the past few years,and feel like I have alot of catching up to do,and like I am behind everyone else. Especially in terms of school. I did not pass certain requirements,so that means until I did,which was finally this year,I could not exactly go to school. So if luck plays out,I will be going in the fall. Yet I will be going when most people are graduating.


I have been in this state for some time now,and it is what has affected me the most. I am beginning to worry if I have some sort of maturity problems,seeing as I have been diagnosed with a learning disability. I don't want to be the 30 year old guy who stills lives at home,yet I feel like I am becoming that. One big area that has always bothered me is the social thing. As has been discussed on here,social proof/value,I feel like I have none,and this may be one of many things that has affected me from having the love/dating life I want. I have gone months without seeing someone,it sucks. I also look at too much porn. I don't if it's cause I feel like I am not good enoug,not attractive,not the confident/leader type,or I don't have the game,or I didn't learn,but do know of,the whole phases,attraction,comfort,courting,etc. I feel rather inexperienced,and this worries me,cause,I want to have a family someday,and I am aware of all the talk of it being in control of the woman,not the man,i.e she has more options than you do.
 
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It matters a LOT

Your only problem is self-belief. Realise that you do not need to do anything or have anything to have self-belief. You are an amazing person the way you are now. Look into stuff like the book The Power Of NOW, it might change your life.

Have a think and write down all of your negative beliefs. Think how these hold you back, where you will end up if you change them, where you will end up if you don't. Write down the positive opposite of these beliefs, in uplifting words. These are your new set of beliefs. Read them every day when you wake up and before you go to bed.

If you do not know what action to take, the best thing to do is look back at the things that you wish you had done, and do them NOW.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SharinganUser reminded me of something else...

Your lifes situation is NOT you. You are more than the way your currently live.

However your lifes situation is almost completely dependant on whats inside your mind.

Rating everyones situation as good/bad is purely perception so your lifes situation (this is not you remember) is probably not nearly as bad as you think it is, its just that you are focusing on the negatives.

You have no idea what people think of you, whatever you think they think of you is just you projecting your OWN thoughts onto them. So don't think for other people, ok?
 
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