Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mjazz said:I was just wondering how bad it really turns girls off. Like maybe 2 or 4 small ones on your face.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is really the wrong question to ask, and it shows you're in the wrong frame: "What will all girls think?" First of all, you're trying to please all women, which is def the wrong place to come from. Even if you were trying to please one woman, it could be a bit questionable.Mjazz said:I was just wondering how bad it really turns girls off. Like maybe 2 or 4 small ones on your face.
If it helps you get laid :rockon:L777 said:I do this really gay thing if I'm on a night out...I use this stuff called menaji camo on my cheeks (where I have mild acne) and it basically just covers it up but no-one can tell you're wearing it. Aparrantly they use it on Justin Timberlake, Antonio Banderas and many other male celebrities.
I got it off mankind.co.uk but I'm sure you can get it across the pond.
Lol yea...make up seems to help emos and goths...why not PUAs?Charm said:If it helps you get laid :rockon:
As much as you let it turn them off. I've got a nose on me that short women stand under in the rain. And if I could ever learn to flap my ears, I'd never use public air transport again.How much does acne turn girls off?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Easy Van Wilder...Themanthatcan said:Ok. Contrary to what most of you believe, I think it reflects your level of hygiene and how well kept you are. Get Clearasil face wash, and Proactive refining mask. First use the face wash then put the mask on individual pimples, to dry them up. Whatever you do, don't pick it!! (Unless its really white)And if you do pick it, push down around the pimple not into it.Picking doesn't do anything for you face but make it worse. Not popping a zit may not produce the same immediate results as popping one, but in 2-3 days it will go away, w/ no scab or trace it was there and probably won't come back. Use the combo 2 times a day and at most 3-4. Don't over do it! If you keep using it too much consistently, it will dry your face out and your face will start PEELING. You'll have a problem much worse than your zits. If you can put a small amount of lotion or mousturizer on your face just so it's not so dried out, do it. The keys to clearing up your acne are patience, and moderation.
Write that down.
Ha.Yeah, that was the pun at the end. (by the way guys, Ryan Reynolds is a great example of what most here are striving for. Check out "Just friends" "Van wilder" etc.Ripper said:Easy Van Wilder...
Nah, I had to go to a dermatologist to get rid of mine.WaterTiger said:Get some Pro-active! It doesn't work for everyone, but it works for most.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
B.S. I'm borderline obsessive about my personal hygiene but have had mild acne for years now. Whereas one of my flatmates smokes weed all the time, eats crap, doesn't shower regularly or have a skin regime....but has near flawless skin. It's just genetics.Themanthatcan said:Ok. Contrary to what most of you believe, I think it reflects your level of hygiene and how well kept you are.Write that down.
right...and I'm 95% certain that acne can be worsened by stress. So if you worry about your acne, it can make you break out even more creating a cycle.splinterkb said:If its not a lot, then it shouldnt matter much. Worrying about it too much will be worse than actually having it. Its not that big of a deal, everyone gets it.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.