"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How much does acne hurt your game?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dude, I feel your pain, literally. I used to have really bad acne, and I always felt like girls would only see that and run away. It must have been true, because I am not bad looking at all, but didn't get much action in high school. I'm sure there were other factors, but acne sure as hell didn't help. It really kills your self esteem as well, so even if girls don't care as much as you think, inside it bothers us and that shows on the outside. What worse for me, now that I'm a "mature" man, is that I still have it. Not nearly as bas as before, but definitely still noticeable. It really blows. I think in high school it's muuch more common though, so girls should be fairly used to it. I have that drinking or applyine Apple Cider Vinegar to your face will clear it up. It tastes like hell though, but if it works it's 1000 times better than acne.
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it doesn't really, because i don't have any, which is the result of a daily face wash. but i think you're asking the wrong question. you shouldn't care if they care, and if it's hurting your confidence, have a plan of action for getting rid of your acne. acne's caused by stress, and if your stressed about it, it'll get worse, so just relax and don't let it affect you.. i doubt anyone worth your time would ever point it out to you, so why assume otherwise? good luck.
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As much as you let it.
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Relax and dont let it affect you? Sorry but that doesnt sound like much of a plan of action. Go to a dermatologist and get some professional help.
And i hate to break it to ya, but yea acne really kills your game. My acne is barely noticeable, and ive talked to my gf and other girls about other guys, and whenever I mention a certain name or two the girls are ALWAYS like "eww his face is so gross"
And i hate to break it to ya, but yea acne really kills your game. My acne is barely noticeable, and ive talked to my gf and other girls about other guys, and whenever I mention a certain name or two the girls are ALWAYS like "eww his face is so gross"
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Exactly, and it's fvkt because people who have never had it don't understand, they think it's something that the person is doing wrong, or that they're dirty.eaglez1177 said:Relax and dont let it affect you? Sorry but that doesnt sound like much of a plan of action. Go to a dermatologist and get some professional help.
And i hate to break it to ya, but yea acne really kills your game. My acne is barely noticeable, and ive talked to my gf and other girls about other guys, and whenever I mention a certain name or two the girls are ALWAYS like "eww his face is so gross"
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Yea it really does cuz sometimes i might wake up in the morning and have a bit of an outbreak on my face and as soon as you look in the mirror you can just FEEL your heart and confidence sink and your just like "this is gonna be such a sh*tty day"
Dude, hit up a dermatologist and get put on accutane. It's extreme; you'll get really dry skin and have to get a lot of blood tests, but it WILL fix the problem (most likely for good too).
And yes it does hurt your game not to mention your confidence. Don't let anyone lie to you it will hurt your game. Too many people spout this "looks have no effect" bs on this site. Not only does it make you look worse, people associate acne with lack of hygiene/personal maintenance, a very unattractive quality.
How bad is your acne? Chances are that over-the-counter crap won't help. I had acne, bad acne, and I tried everything. Oxy pads, creams, face washes, salicylic acid, retin-a, you name it. Finally I went to a dermatologist who put me on accutane. Not only did it fix the acne I had, I haven't had acne since (7-8 years ago). Naturally I'll get the odd pimple every now and then but nothing a little acne cream doesn't fix in a day. So hell with all this "don't let it affect you" bullcrap because it will affect you in one way or another. Sure, fix your confidence but fix the acne problem while your at it
And yes it does hurt your game not to mention your confidence. Don't let anyone lie to you it will hurt your game. Too many people spout this "looks have no effect" bs on this site. Not only does it make you look worse, people associate acne with lack of hygiene/personal maintenance, a very unattractive quality.
How bad is your acne? Chances are that over-the-counter crap won't help. I had acne, bad acne, and I tried everything. Oxy pads, creams, face washes, salicylic acid, retin-a, you name it. Finally I went to a dermatologist who put me on accutane. Not only did it fix the acne I had, I haven't had acne since (7-8 years ago). Naturally I'll get the odd pimple every now and then but nothing a little acne cream doesn't fix in a day. So hell with all this "don't let it affect you" bullcrap because it will affect you in one way or another. Sure, fix your confidence but fix the acne problem while your at it
Yeah, I just went to the dermatologist and he put me on the Differin Gel. He said that it would probably take 6-12 weeks before I saw any noticable results though, so that's why I'm asking. I really don't want to go the Accutane rout just yet because of the side effects. How long does it take for Accutane to really work though? And is there anything I can do to lighten it up and make it less obvious?BlakeW5 said:Dude, hit up a dermatologist and get put on accutane. It's extreme; you'll get really dry skin and have to get a lot of blood tests, but it WILL fix the problem (most likely for good too).
And yes it does hurt your game not to mention your confidence. Don't let anyone lie to you it will hurt your game. Too many people spout this "looks have no effect" bs on this site. Not only does it make you look worse, people associate acne with lack of hygiene/personal maintenance, a very unattractive quality.
How bad is your acne? Chances are that over-the-counter crap won't help. I had acne, bad acne, and I tried everything. Oxy pads, creams, face washes, salicylic acid, retin-a, you name it. Finally I went to a dermatologist who put me on accutane. Not only did it fix the acne I had, I haven't had acne since (7-8 years ago). Naturally I'll get the odd pimple every now and then but nothing a little acne cream doesn't fix in a day. So hell with all this "don't let it affect you" bullcrap because it will affect you in one way or another. Sure, fix your confidence but fix the acne problem while your at it
Try just Benzoyl Peroxide 2.5% every day.
Wash your face thoroughly, then put it on for a few minutes, then wash off. I just started, and i think its doing well, but its hard to tell because my acne is at its worst ever.
www.acne.org.
Its works, apparently. I'm giving it a chance, and if you care, i'll PM you about it in a week or two to let you know how the first month worked out.
Wash your face thoroughly, then put it on for a few minutes, then wash off. I just started, and i think its doing well, but its hard to tell because my acne is at its worst ever.
www.acne.org.
Its works, apparently. I'm giving it a chance, and if you care, i'll PM you about it in a week or two to let you know how the first month worked out.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I second Everything he said. Next time you go to the derm ask them about it. I went through a sh#t load of gels, creams, and pills with mine before we finally did the 'tane.BlakeW5 said:Dude, hit up a dermatologist and get put on accutane. It's extreme; you'll get really dry skin and have to get a lot of blood tests, but it WILL fix the problem (most likely for good too).
And yes it does hurt your game not to mention your confidence. Don't let anyone lie to you it will hurt your game. Too many people spout this "looks have no effect" bs on this site. Not only does it make you look worse, people associate acne with lack of hygiene/personal maintenance, a very unattractive quality.
How bad is your acne? Chances are that over-the-counter crap won't help. I had acne, bad acne, and I tried everything. Oxy pads, creams, face washes, salicylic acid, retin-a, you name it. Finally I went to a dermatologist who put me on accutane. Not only did it fix the acne I had, I haven't had acne since (7-8 years ago). Naturally I'll get the odd pimple every now and then but nothing a little acne cream doesn't fix in a day. So hell with all this "don't let it affect you" bullcrap because it will affect you in one way or another. Sure, fix your confidence but fix the acne problem while your at it
Worked great. Some side effects were a b!tch but well worth it.
My game is up and confidence is up.
And acne can mess with your confidence, but I recently found out about a cute girl that had told my sister she'd fvck me if I lost the acne. Just an example that it does ruin your game
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same thing happened to me. It will hurt your game and anyone that tells you it won't is lying plain and simple.mpimpin said:I second Everything he said. Next time you go to the derm ask them about it. I went through a sh#t load of gels, creams, and pills with mine before we finally did the 'tane.
Worked great. Some side effects were a b!tch but well worth it.
My game is up and confidence is up.
And acne can mess with your confidence, but I recently found out about a cute girl that had told my sister she'd fvck me if I lost the acne. Just an example that it does ruin your game
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I've had it much worse than others. Probably much worse than you. I had acne in elementary school; yes that's right, I had ACNE in elementary school. Not just light acne either; it was disgusting and very severe. In elementary school. And the assumption was always that if I'd take a wash cloth, put water on it, then rub my face with it my acne would magically go away over night. Acne does kill your game. Girls are ridiculously shallow though; the ones who care about that aren't the ones you really want to end up with anyway.
After years of torture, I finally got Acutane. My self-confidence will never be what it was again, but getting rid of the acne has helped.
After years of torture, I finally got Acutane. My self-confidence will never be what it was again, but getting rid of the acne has helped.