"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How much attention?

Somedude8749

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Hey everyone. So i have this gf who im planning on keeping around for a long time. we have been going out for a little over a month. the thing is i dont think i show her that much attention at school. i stand outside with her in the morining and walk her to her bus at the end of the day, thats about it. i do see her during the day in the halls. is there more that i should do or what? thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Drumstick

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As long as you hang out on the weekend that should probably be fine. You don't need to spend every second together, that would be bad. I think you're doing a pretty good job
 

Vinny Porello

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Sounds like you are doing a good job. A lot of high school couples spend TOO MUCH time together at the start of a relationship and this can make the relationship boring and annoying. You have to show that she isn't the only important thing in your life.
 

The Grey Fox

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I agree with both comments above, couples in high school spend way too much time together, I often see some who look bored out of their skin.

What you are doing right now is good, you are showing you have plenty of other stuff to do and if she wants more of you she's gonna have to earn it :up:
 
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