how much attention is too much?

[jigga23]

How much attention can you give a girl before u cross the line? Ive been contacting a girl just about once a week at the most maybe 2 times but thats it. weve hung out and stuff. a lot of sexual tension, weve kissed. before she was jocking me like crazy dont want to explain everything but she was. for whatever resaon her IL has gone down for some reason i might have a good idea why. i didnt really do any thing fvcked up she probably feels rejected though. so right now im trying to gauge her interest back by showing her a lot of attention making her feel special then cutting it off and disappearing for a while. but how much attention needs to be given? The sexual interest is there at least with me , i know she had a lot not sure how much now though. every time weve hung out a lot of kino. So ill show how much interest ive given her lately.
This is what ive given her since she started acting weird.

1. Texted her to go to the movies. She responded but we didnt do anything.Flaked
2 2 days later I called her on a tuesday just to say whats up. Never done this to her before. We talked.
3. Called her 2 days later when she told me to so we could hang out. But never happened. busy conflicting schedules.
4. 1 week later (this past weekened) called her to go to a comedy show said she couldnt go cause her cousin was in town (probably true). she said call her after the show. Texted her after was pretty drunk though. Then i know stupidly asked her to come to my cousins wedding with me out of the blue. she hasn't responded. that was probably dumb on my part but atleast it was showing her that she was special.

Is this the right amount to give then have her squirm when i stop showing her attention? or did i over do it? I know she likes the attention though. if she didnt she wouldnt respond period. i say certain things to her to see how she is like with me. Like ill say ill see you whenever and shell respond immediatley. so she likes it i just dont want to over board and bug her.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

This is what ive given her since she started acting weird.

1. Texted her to go to the movies. She responded but we didnt do anything.Flaked
Not good

2 2 days later I called her on a tuesday just to say whats up. Never done this to her before. We talked.
Not good at all, your tolerating her flakey behavior from a few days earlier and basically telling her "you can walk on me without any repercussions

3. Called her 2 days later when she told me to so we could hang out. But never happened. busy conflicting schedules.
Dood why are you the one always calling? If she's not initiating at least 1 phone call a week, this its no bueno dood. "Busy conflicting schedules??" Trust me man if she has high interest she will have PLENTY of time for you

4. 1 week later (this past weekened) called her to go to a comedy show said she couldnt go cause her cousin was in town (probably true). she said call her after the show. Texted her after was pretty drunk though. Then i know stupidly asked her to come to my cousins wedding with me out of the blue. she hasn't responded. that was probably dumb on my part but atleast it was showing her that she was special.

Wow....this buried you 3 feet deeper than you already were


Is this the right amount to give then have her squirm when i stop showing her attention? or did i over do it? I know she likes the attention though. if she didnt she wouldnt respond period. i say certain things to her to see how she is like with me. Like ill say ill see you whenever and shell respond immediatley. so she likes it i just dont want to over board and bug her.

Just because a girl likes the attention your giving her, it doesn't mean she's interested in you. Shiat man, who doesn't love getting attention from the opposite sex? And most chicks are "too nice" to flat out tell you to stop calling them because they're not interested. Girls will string you along for as long as you tolerate it, which you clearly are.

Your overanalyzing now and that has caused you to flood her with phone calls. Best remedy for this situation is to not call her for a week. Clear your head, go out with your friends and have fun. If she calls you after you stop calling then you can get back in the saddle and take control of this situation. She doesn't seem very interested in you right now because your not a challenge to her. Go back to being a challenge and see if it gets you anywhere. I think you've fuvked up pretty bad, it could be salvagable but it isn't worth the effort IMO.



PIMP

 

[jigga23]

thats some good advice seriously. I will do what u have said. It seems just like the right and only thing to do right now. I think ive been acting like this towards her cause at first she was all over me, ive just gotten out of an ltr and she was there. I could have fvcked her but i wanted a relationship with her so i know its bad to fvck that fast thats why i didnt. but now shes flakely most likely cause of that. i only contact like once a week. but ill wait and see if she calls. in situation number 4 i gave into her i know this sounds lame but i was serioulsy gone in my mind. I would never say that sh*t sober to her currently.