Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
JackRobin said:foreign women and American women included
if you were to average it out, what do you think the range would be?
I am going to 40-45 women
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
6237 adults is not a large enough sample pool imo to gauge this.JackRobin said:
I find it very representativeCrashOverRide said:6237 adults is not a large enough sample pool imo to gauge this.
Nutrition? Where is the nutritive part of sex? You suppose that the people surveyed were tricked into cooperating with a government peek into their sex lives by the surveyors calling it a "nutrition exam?" Personally, if I were asked to participate in a "nutrition survey," and they started asking about my sex life, I would feel irritated and would just click 'A' 'A' 'A' 'A' through that section.The survey, formally titled the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, did not include the homeless, prisons inmates or other institutionalized adults.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I believe that the overconfidence bias is systemic by nature, so one can probably assume that this number is biased in the higher direction. In other words, everyone lies, but lies roughly the same. If a guy says he slept with 15 women, the reality is that they probably forgot a few (and rounded up), or counted encounters that weren't sex as sex, again rounding up. The reality is that people who claim 10-15 are probably more like 8 or 9, those claiming less than 10 are probably at 3-5 etc. (rough estimations, I have no real data to back this). However you can assume EVERYONE lies about it and generally drop a few numbers.Plutoman said:I don't believe for one moment 29% of guys sleep with 15 or more women. That's a ridiculous statement.