How many plates do you spin? and dating single mothers

[mayfair]

Hey hows it going?

Last time i posted on here i was asking for advice about moving out of the friends zone with a girl.....well that went tits up if anyone is intrested, i guess rejection is character building!

Anyway back to the point at hand, since then ive just been plodding away and putting it about abit, I had 2 girls who ive been drifting between for just casual sex nothing serious, the odd date, you know the drill, up front and honest "this is just fun" kinda stuff

Recently a 3rd girl has entered the fray and i could actually see things going to the exclusive stage with her but i have a couple of reservations, The main one being shes a single mother

So basically what i'd like to know is how many plates spinning at once are too many for you personally? whats your number? In the beginning i was floating between the 3 and ive more or less discovered im not cut out to be a player, even though i never went exclusive with any of these girls 'ask no questions hear no lies' i still felt like abit of a bastard (i only see the single mother now) plus its plain hard work!

And has anyone any experience going more serious with a single mother? Its more having the ready made family and lack of spontaneity when theres a nipper about that worries me, we get on great but i suppose ive got to consider the bigger picture

From what ive gathered so far single mothers seem to be more straight up, less bull **** and silly games, a more here's what i want take it or leave it approach than there unattached counterparts plus this girl in particular doesnt have a clingy 'give me attention' streak, im guessing this is due to her kid being numero uno in her life (which is the way it should be) im happy being number 2

Well i just really enjoy reading other peoples perspective on **** plus you can never knock 1st hand experience

So how many women are too many and whats your experience with MILFs

Thoughts and sctuffff welcome :rockon:

 

[Droz88]

If you're ok raising and supporting (financially and emotionally) another mans kid then go ahead. I personally would never do that...under any circumstances.

I've made a lot of appraches this week. Maybe about 15-20 and about 5 of them were older women who were married (not sure if they had kids). I kinda didn't like them because although they were flattered that I was hitting on them, 4 of them were very blunt in rejecting me. 1 was sweeter but still gave me an obnoxious "no". Yes they are not little girls anymore and are straightforward and confident themselves. They don't seem to want or need direction from a man anymore (maybe just not from me since I'm a lot younger?). Talking to them is a lot different than talking to the young ones.

 

[mayfair]

see thats the killer, seeing someone else write your opening line in black and white gives me the fear!

Its kinda going to blow having to break it off and when she asks why whats up, having to spin her some bull****, When i know shes keen on me and shes grown on me over the last few months- lifes tough wear a helmet!

15-20 approaches a week! man your like a dog in heat haha! good luck to you sir! when im single i prefer just to have a couple of steadys i find you get the real good sex anywhere between 2-6 weeks in, once your in that comfort zone you can get some real freaky $hit happning! One night stands are overrated in my book

Older women can defo hold a better conversation and keep me on my toes alot more, younger women/girls that i meet tend to be air heads and you get away with the nodding dog pretend intrest

 

[Purefilth]

spinning 7, no single moms...

 

[mayfair]

one for every day of the week!? Your penis must resemble a well worn lipstick

 

[GQ Scott]

3, have another 3 wanting it, so I may go up to 6. I've never dated or even pursued single mothers before but it seems to be a trend the last couple months... 5/6 are. I'd rather them not have kids, I must have some sort of magnet on me... haha

 

[Greasy Pig]

2 regulars, both single mums, both sexy as fvck and have not and will not meet the kids.
3 not-so-regulars but they're pretty much DTF whenever I get in touch. Not single mums.

I guess the single mums are more relaxed than the non-mothers. We chat about shyt their kids do and have a laugh, get drunk, fvck like crazy, then I leave and don't see them for a couple of weeks.
The non-mothers are harder work. I think I just get the impression that the mums are cooler about acting like young party girls with me and then going back to being "mum", whereas the non-mums seem like they're really trying to force my hand and make me commit.

As a result, I pull back from the non-mothers to reinforce the point that I won't be tied down and I'm drawn to the mothers because I feel they only see me as a part-time sexual outlet and they're quite happy with that. As am I.

But if I get the impression they're seriously looking for a new daddy for their kids, I'm out.