You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, that's the biggest problem next to them wanting to escalate too quickly to establish herself as the dominant b1tch of the pack. The trick is to plan outings ahead of time and keep a calendar of some sort. As new ones come onto the roster I even keep track of where we met and what we talked about so that I don't confuse one with another during an outing with another one. You could screw up in ways other than calling one the wrong name.Answers said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You'd think it would be nice but you could easily be seen as a player if this starts happening and could easily screw up your own game just from getting too greedy. Best bet is just to have a few plates in the air and a couple of saucers over on the table.reset said:
Obsidian said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
:rockon:reset said:
finally did this not too long ago. i can now say i've banged 2 different chicks on the same night. needless to say, it was awesome :rockon:Bible_Belt said:The novelty of having sex with two different women on the same night is wearing off
Francisco d'Anconia said:
I have to double check texts messages and have sent some wrong ones but got away with it!!:woo:Francisco d'Anconia said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.