How many plates are enough plates? And how do you keep'em spinning?

[Lotus Effect]

Hey guys,

The title pretty much says it all.
How many do you usually have, and how do you manage them?

I'm not talking about backburner, or plan Bs. I'm talking about active plates.

And when I say manage, I mean when you are away from them.

I'd very much like to understand your view and your approach on the theme.

I can give further insight on my current plates status right now, but, to avoid bias on the topic, I'll save it for later.

Cheers

 

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Usually 3.

In my case, each one had a day of the week. Then it went into weekly cycles.

For example, when I didn't meet the "Thursday girl", I would use this “free” day to arrange a new date with a possible new girl to join the rotation. Then I'd see the "Thursday girl" only in the next week.

I think 4 is an ideal number. You can have 14-day breaks and alternate between weeks.

Distance is essential. Especially if you want them to be just a plate. Show them you are not getting attached. This kind of thing turns them on and keeps them wondering.

During this time between dates, I would send them occasional messages. A meme here, a comment to tease them there. That kind of stuff.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Just having 1 can be a handful if that person is worthy of your time.

What you should be doing is focusing on your' Purpose' or The 'what it's all about' type of objective to you.

To me it was my Spiritual Calling and women were just icing on the cake. Find your purpose, find peace and enjoy your life.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I usually have 2-3 when I don't have a girlfriend, and there isn't much I do in terms of managing them. I typically see them once a week and we usually do something or fvck or both depending on how long we are together that day.

Usually at some point they will want to be exclusive with me and I will deny it and they will grudgingly accept but that's when I know it's time to start looking for another because they are going to drop within the next month or two and find someone that will give them what they want.

That's the part most guys don't understand...if you are only giving them plate status, they usually have a 3-4 month shelf life. And it's OK. You simply have to continue building your pipeline for when one drops out you can replace them with another.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Just having 1 can be a handful if that person is worthy of your time.

What you should be doing is focusing on your' Purpose' or The 'what it's all about' type of objective to you.

To me it was my Spiritual Calling and women were just icing on the cake. Find your purpose, find peace and enjoy your life.

That is done already my man. I'm a buddhist.
I'm on the path. You can chill about that. But thanks either way.

Let's not get lost on the subject of the thread please. Plate spinning.

BTW, if you are spinning one, thats okay, but thats not a plate. Thats a relationship.

I'm talking about casual sex. I'm talking about the base of Maslow's pyramid of necessities. Fvcking, per se.

 

[Lotus Effect]

You need enough to keep you sexually satisfied. High libido > 3-5 lovers. Medium libido> 2-3 lovers. Low libido > 1-2 lovers.

I dislike the term plates.

Good. You answered half of the question.

Let's not get lost on semantics. You can call them whatever you like bro.

There is no need for explaining when you are together because I assume you are a proper DJ, and drive them wild, leaving them finished on the bed, wanting for more.

What I'm curious about is on how do you keep them? I'm talking about the time you are away from them.

 

[Lotus Effect]

I usually have 2-3 when I don't have a girlfriend, and there isn't much I do in terms of managing them. I typically see them once a week and we usually do something or fvck or both depending on how long we are together that day.

Usually at some point they will want to be exclusive with me and I will deny it and they will grudgingly accept but that's when I know it's time to start looking for another because they are going to drop within the next month or two and find someone that will give them what they want.

That's the part most guys don't understand...if you are only giving them plate status, they usually have a 3-4 month shelf life. And it's OK. You simply have to continue building your pipeline for when one drops out you can replace them with another.

Great, thanks for the reply Back.

Also as the assasin, you answered half of the question tho.

What you do with them on the one day you are together is irrelevant, as I know you build attraction and cement it, throught fvcking or going on bumper carts or both.

There are 6 days that you are not physically present.

Elaborate on 'not much you are doing' in terms of managing, considering you see them once a week.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Usually 3.

In my case, each one had a day of the week. Then it went into weekly cycles.

For example, when I didn't meet the "Thursday girl", I would use this “free” day to arrange a new date with a possible new girl to join the rotation. Then I'd see the "Thursday girl" only in the next week.

I think 4 is an ideal number. You can have 14-day breaks and alternate between weeks.

Distance is essential. Especially if you want them to be just a plate. Show them you are not getting attached. This kind of thing turns them on and keeps them wondering.

During this time between dates, I would send them occasional messages. A meme here, a comment to tease them there. That kind of stuff.

Perfect Holiday!

Thanks for the spot on reply.
That's what I was going for.

And yes, the idea is to keep the asset active for as long as possible, with high interest level, and not:

- falling into GF category
or
- the iron grow cold

Meaning, keep them right in that sweet spot.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I call them lovers and they last a lot longer than 3-4 months.

Do they call you sugar daddy?

 

[Dr_jitsu]

I have been happily married for 18 years, but in the 2 years prior to that, when my game had gotten really good, I ran a 3 woman rotation, or plates, as they say here. However I was not just after casual sex, I was looking for marriage. Ironically these women gave me the best sex in my life because they were all competing to get married.

Pursue a relationship, get great sex.

I had a Tue/Thurs/Sat girl. At that time I was early 40's and wanted to start a family. 3 women a week was all I could manage. All were beautiful high quality gals. I would only see my Number 1 gal on either Tue or Thursday.

I would usually replace one gal every 2 months or so once I realized there was no future potential.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No, unlike you I don't have to pay for sex.

If there was any paying done, it would be on their end.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

In blood and tears, no doubt.

After they got tore up for the floor up for several hours maybe and couldn't handle any more.

 

[parabellum]

God, you're such a stud. You don't even use beds anymore.

Floored

 

[Chow Mein]

Just gather up as many as you can and start dropping some if you feel your time is constrained

 

[Clockwerk50]

The red pill suggests to text them once per week. @BackInTheGame78 says he texts them every day or so.

Personally, what works for me is that, when things are starting to get too cold or if I don't hear from them for 14 days or so, you re-engage by sending a quick text or a phone call to check how they are. However, the women are the ones that often initiate the conversation or invite you to go out on weekly basis since they are the ones interested in locking you down or keep the relationship going, technically speaking.

In my experience, and as an example, one girl texted me on a Thursday asking me what I was doing, I replied that I was fixing the faucet in the basement since the faucet seats deuterated. She asked if I was a sexy or a regular plumber, I said the sexy kind or some BS like that, and then she ghosted me until Tuesday where she re-initiated the conversation. We kept the conversation going until we went out on Friday, the week after the conversation started.

If you don't get too emotional or care about them ghosting and coming back it should be easy.

 

[Dr_jitsu]

Great, thanks for the reply Back.

Also as the assasin, you answered half of the question tho.

What you do with them on the one day you are together is irrelevant, as I know you build attraction and cement it, throught fvcking or going on bumper carts or both.

There are 6 days that you are not physically present.

Elaborate on 'not much you are doing' in terms of managing, considering you see them once a week.

You do nothing. Those 6 days of no contact are going to drive her interest level very high. She is going to wonder what you are doing and who you are doing it with. You become rare and higher value if you only see her once a week.

 

[Solomon]

Hey guys,

The title pretty much says it all.
How many do you usually have, and how do you manage them?

I'm not talking about backburner, or plan Bs. I'm talking about active plates.

And when I say manage, I mean when you are away from them.

I'd very much like to understand your view and your approach on the theme.

I can give further insight on my current plates status right now, but, to avoid bias on the topic, I'll save it for later.

Cheers

Typically I have 0-1 (honestly it depends on what I'm focused on i.e. spiritual journey with the most high, or business etc) I find that when I have 0 I tend to be more focused and get stuff done however I prefer 1 who has available schedule that suits my lifestyle and we have things in common outside of sex.

Currently, I have 3 ages 21,38,46 (retired)

When Do I see them it all depends. The 21-year-old lives 3 hours away from me, she comes to see me (I never go to her) We usually see each other every other weekend. 38-year-old I see every other weekend I don't see the 21 year old(we use to see each other 4 times a week but she got a new job, also I got bored of her but she is my main) the 46-year-old I see her if both or one falls through or in the middle of the week. Although She lives the closes (15 minutes) I see her less, I know it bothers her as she has asked to see me more and I have flaked on her a ton, honestly hard to deal with her once I started to deal with the 21-year-old. The 21 year old we actually are the most compatible out of all the 3, the 46 year old the least

Like I said on average usually I deal with 1 woman at a time due to my limited time and it allows me to be focused however this summer I have had a lot of dates/hookups etc far more than average. I will say this after doing all that dating this summer I prefer younger women older women be doing too much

If all my plates were to fall through right now, I have no problem taking a bit of a break from the game. The older I get the more I value my solitude