How many of you have found the kind of woman you were looking for?

[SteR]

I suppose I'm having one of my weaker moments, so you'll have to forgive me, but I wonder whether I'm aiming for is even attainable..

I will admit I have high standards but I like to think I'm someone who isn't being hypocritical. I'm not looking for anything in a partner that I don't adhere to myself but I'm getting to the stage where I'm wondering if what I'm after is still possible? I imagine that a lot of it is because the majority of the women I've been mixing with recently have been from work, and they're so far from my ideal that it skews my perspectives on all women.

I guess I'm trying to keep the hope alive that some day I will find exactly what I'm looking for and all the searching/patience will have been worth it. Have any of you guys found this?

It's strange really because everything else in my life seems to be going pretty well at the moment. It'd just be nice to find someone I consider my equal to share it with. Doh.

 

[GhengisT]

Eh. You'll be fine. Just remember the relationship begins before you meet her. You have to be successful, true to yourself, and whole as a person.

Women will come..

 

[sodbuster]

Thought I did at age 31. Got married and after a few years, realized she had changed into a feminist... Since it's illegal to knock some sense into them like our grandfathers could...if necessary; I divorced her

 

[Boilermaker]

you probably won't find what you are exactly looking for,

since we tend to customize a lot,

but I am sure you will find one who is "moldable" to what you want.

In fact, our definitions of good women usually boil down to something like that,

feminine, submissive, respectful all mean that she will be willing to align to your

position in life.

Some career and income compatibility also necessary of course ...

 

[SteR]

Thought I did at age 31. Got married and after a few years, realized she had changed into a feminist... Since it's illegal to knock some sense into them like our grandfathers could...if necessary; I divorced her

But was it purely a case of her just changing or did you happen to be an AFC in those days? Do you think there was anything you could've done and maybe made the relationship work?

I guess it's at least nice to know that you found what you were looking for.. even though it didn't work out.

you probably won't find what you are exactly looking for,

since we tend to customize a lot,

but I am sure you will find one who is "moldable" to what you want.

In fact, our definitions of good women usually boil down to something like that,

feminine, submissive, respectful all mean that she will be willing to align to your

position in life.

Some career and income compatibility also necessary of course ...

I understand what you're saying. It's not like I have a set list of attributes that she MUST have. I won't deny that there are certain traits she must possess but I'm still pretty flexible.

It just seems that the girls with the traits I am looking for are becoming rarer and rarer. I figure, as mentioned above, that by continuing to push myself to be the best I can I'll at least increase the odds of what I'm searching for but it'd be nice to hear from people who have been through this and found that it was all worth while in the end.

Thanks for your responses both of you.

 

[sodbuster]

NO, I was pretty hard, but then I started letting the little things slip because they "weren't worth fighting over". BUT when it WAS worth fighting over, she didn't believe that I would end it. Like other guys have said, treat them like children. NEVER let them get spoiled

 

[LiveFreeX]

Found, in China.

 

[typical]

Found, in China.

I hope you're trolling mate. If flat chested and flat a$$ is what you're after then by all means go date a chick from the asian countries. Just remember that most people from Asia look like a bunch of unisex characters.

But then again I hear that Asia is the homeland for the AFC man to go hook up with a lady that's way passed her prime years.

I'll stick to weeding through all the entitled chicks here down under in Aussieland and Kiwiland because the more I weed out the better girls I attract.

Too any one in a slump just keep working at it you will eventually break through and find a few worth keeping.

 

[GotED?]

Here's sharing what I have learned after 40 years of mistakes with women:

== NEVER GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF CONVENIENCE==

What does that mean? Convenience? This means that.....

Scenario A: A woman shows interest in you wherever you happened to be at a point in time and space. You let her get to you emotionally - you fall for her, get laid, and she then has you in her grips. Do you really know if she is compatible for you? Oh... what is that? Well, she was just 'convenient' and showed interest.... oops... busted your balls. Next tip>>

== LEARN FROM YOUR PAST FAILED RELATIONSHIPS AND SET STANDARDS IN WHAT YOU WANT, NOT BY CONVENIENCE ==

Scenario B: You see co-workers every single fooken day, Monday thru Friday. Convenient?? heck yeah... what not fook one of them... before you know it, you are in a relationship, you get emotionally touchy feeling, and she's got you in her grip. Did you check to see if she passed your filters and checklists, probably not... it was... just 'convenient'.... and happened. Busted your balls.

Scenario C: You FINALLY find someone who is WILLING to meet you on a date from some online dating sh*t website. You are desparate for some attention, you meet this woman, who is not really attractive to your standards - but you have no other options. You fall for her, find out later she lied about half of her information on the dating website; you pour your heart out and exercise self-embalment. You lose your balls...oops... she was just 'convenient' because you did not take the time to look for what you NEED not just what you WANT.

There's some dark humor here but you get my gestures: apply what you learned from your past into what you need in the future. What you WANT is not necessarily what you NEED. A woman who is right for you is someone who is going to require you to say 'NO THANKS' to many women before you hit the right one. If you never say 'NO THANKS' and just settle for a woman by 'convenience' (she somehow shows up in your life and you never really took the initiative to LOOK for a woman), you never have the chance to get to the right woman for you.

SET STANDARDS, HAVE NO GRIPES ABOUT LETTING WOMEN GO - and you will soon stop wasting time with women who are not right for you.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[Colossus]

Convenience can definitely be a trap.

Sometimes, though, you just need a fling to bridge the gap. As long as you are aware it's a fling and treat it as such, it shouldn't be a detriment on your path to choosing someone more suitable for the long-term. Just keep an open mind and don't chase someone so perfect they don't exist.

I used to "think" I knew what I wanted. I wanted a girl who was foreign, smart, and cultured. Well I found one, and it wasn't quite what I thought it would be. So then I thought I'd like a down-home, simple American girl. So I found one, and she wasn't what I thought she would be either. I've thought I wanted younger, older, slimmer, thicker, big boobs, small boobs, outgoing, or quiet.

Now I'm just open to whatever is best for me, not so such what I think I want. I have boundaries and a list of red flags, and some general qualities that I like, but outside of that I'm no longer trying to build this ideal woman in my mind. I kinda just dont care anymore.

 

[Epimanes]

I found my perfect woman! At the age of 16 (she was 15). We did great for the first few years ... then as kids came along it got increasingly difficult. Wife lost all her desire (due to trauma of her PC muscle from childbirth trauma x2 and loss of feeling "down there" and is regaining it as she trains it back to a healthy condition).

We are creating compatability now much better than we used to... life is becoming more and more fantastic as we discover how to create comaptablity and learn each others emotional needs and become experts and meeting them. Also learning each others weaknesses and realizing that our own strengths compliment our partners weaknesses. We become each others greatest sources of happiness and literally find ourselves having a hard time keeping our hands off each other now. Yes we have our hobbies... but find that now that we are back in love (after learning how to create and sustain romantic love) who the heck needs hobbies! WE are each others hobbies! hahaha!

I love my wife, she is AMAZING! Of course not 100% all the time .. but more often than not. To give it a number .. probably like 90% of the itme shes fantastic and 10% shes a total B. Just keep track of when her PMS week starts (the week BEFORE her period) and withdraw from her a bit during that time .. and be more ****y funny in your interactions .. and roll the **** tests off your back kinda guy.

 

[GotED?]

Epimanes - you sound perfect for the next Viagra commercial.

 

[Epimanes]

LOL ... thanks? But seriously .. I am not kidding.

 

[SteR]

I found my perfect woman! At the age of 16 (she was 15). We did great for the first few years ... then as kids came along it got increasingly difficult. Wife lost all her desire (due to trauma of her PC muscle from childbirth trauma x2 and loss of feeling "down there" and is regaining it as she trains it back to a healthy condition).

We are creating compatability now much better than we used to... life is becoming more and more fantastic as we discover how to create comaptablity and learn each others emotional needs and become experts and meeting them. Also learning each others weaknesses and realizing that our own strengths compliment our partners weaknesses. We become each others greatest sources of happiness and literally find ourselves having a hard time keeping our hands off each other now. Yes we have our hobbies... but find that now that we are back in love (after learning how to create and sustain romantic love) who the heck needs hobbies! WE are each others hobbies! hahaha!

I love my wife, she is AMAZING! Of course not 100% all the time .. but more often than not. To give it a number .. probably like 90% of the itme shes fantastic and 10% shes a total B. Just keep track of when her PMS week starts (the week BEFORE her period) and withdraw from her a bit during that time .. and be more ****y funny in your interactions .. and roll the **** tests off your back kinda guy.

Well that's quite inspiring to hear - good for you

I suppose what I was looking for in this thread was people who had actually been through all the rough stuff and finally found what they were looking for.

I understand everything people are saying about not settling, holding out for what you want etc but I want to hear from people who have done this and proven all the theory work well... works.

 

[typical]

Well that's quite inspiring to hear - good for you

I suppose what I was looking for in this thread was people who had actually been through all the rough stuff and finally found what they were looking for.

I understand everything people are saying about not settling, holding out for what you want etc but I want to hear from people who have done this and proven all the theory work well... works.

This right here is you're problem and you need to work on it brother. You see all the advice all the theory everything here and on other websites that teach you game and how to get women and keep women are just ideas and methods that worked for others and if you follow the general rules of thumb they will work for you.

BUT you need to make it clear in your mind that these ideas will not magically enable you to find that perfect woman that's just perfect for you even if you go through a truck load of problems and are still together. It just does not work like that.

Life is a journey not a destination people change hell everything changes you need to adapt to the changes and keep rolling.

My own personal example is that I've gone through a tonne of **** hit the highs (6 figure income) and hit the lows (gun pointed to my head from gang affiliations) and through it all I've learned that people come and people go and you can only be true to yourself no one else. And only you control what happens to you.

And when you take charge of everything in your life that you can that's when all the ideas and methods on this website show their true meanings and things get better. But you won't suddenly find yourself in some euphoric fantasy dreamworld, and if you still think all this stuff will be able to create that you need to wake the fu(k up.

 

[Zarky]

I've found the kind of women I'm looking for: cheap and easy

(Surprisingly not easy to find! But possible. Most women want guys to think of them as high-class broads.)

 

[Jitterbug]

I'm taught to look for the woman of my dreams, and sometimes I parrot that line back to nosy people who ask. However, the truth is I always dream about multiple women (who the hell dreams only of one chick??? It's the dream world, come on!), and after I became honest with myself about it, I have stopped looking for the perfect one. If she passes my boner test and isn't toxic to my life, she'll do... for now.

 

[LiveFreeX]

I hope you're trolling mate. If flat chested and flat a$$ is what you're after then by all means go date a chick from the asian countries. Just remember that most people from Asia look like a bunch of unisex characters.

Ya whatever guy, thanks for that you fvcking racist. Asian women outclass your women 10 to 1. Kiwis are just another form of western woman. Asian women are more than just tits and ass but I'm guessing a n00b like you wouldn't understand that. If you don't like Chinese girls thats fine but don't go insulting a whole race of people. All Chinese girl group: http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XMjMyNjQzMTYw.html
Koreans: http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XMzUxMjYzNDQ4.html


Don't like em? Don't look at em, more for my tribe.

But then again I hear that Asia is the homeland for the AFC man to go hook up with a lady that's way passed her prime years.

Mine is 9 years my junior and I've been in the game for the last 8 years, I know my sh1t pretty well.

I'll stick to weeding through all the entitled chicks here down under in Aussieland and Kiwiland because the more I weed out the better girls I attract.

What idiot PUA tells others to hold out and date lower quality 'entitled' women to find the exact same feminine qualities that are in abundance over here. You are a class 1 retard.

Too any one in a slump just keep working at it you will eventually break through and find a few worth keeping.

What a load of sh1t. If you put the same amount of effort into meeting a girl here you could probably have a really nice life setup like I do.

I prefer women who actually look and act like women not western warpigs.

OP was looking for success stories, I found and married mine.

 

[st_99]

to be honest, i never really sat down and gave it deep thought. so if someone asked me what im looking for in a women i couldnt really get very specific.

 

[twentee]

My wife is not yet what i want, but she is eagerly learning to be just that. the problem is, when I get her trained, she is going to be able to take her pick if men much younger and richer than me. That's ok, tho, I saw it coming and I accept it. I will get another one and train her, too.