Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How many of you have a good social circle?

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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noobolgy said:
Humble ninja, having 15 cats doesn't count as a social circle.

Still getting more "pvssy" than you. LMAO

Thanks for being a fan! :cheer:
 

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HumbleNinja said:
Isn't that par for the course on So Suave? :yes:
true. but then you're a 44 year old virgin. why should anyone listen to your generalizations over others?. :crackup:
 

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sylvester the cat said:
true. but then you're a 44 year old virgin. why should anyone listen to your generalizations over others?. :crackup:

For the same reason Marks should believe pvssy isn’t the solution to curing their diseased minds. :up:
 

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noobolgy said:
Humble ninja, having 15 cats doesn't count as a social circle.
Hahaha
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dgwizdal said:
Trying to build a social circle? Join a team - shoot pool, bowling, softball, dodgeball. Volunteer somewhere. Connect with college Alumni in your area. Take a couple college credits. Start a fan club. Take a class - salsa, yoga, cooking, whatever.

Most importantly - get off you a$$. Find a reason to matter outside of yourself, grab that sh*t by the balls, And take charge. If you create value for yourself and channel some of into something productive other people can relate to, feed off of, and benefit from - you will attract the people you want to hang with and they in turn will bring more people your way.
repped
 

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Women are apparently attracted to power and respect comes with power, so it's no wonder that guys with large social circles tend to have an easier time getting a girlfriend, getting laid
 

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Dgwizdal said:
Trying to build a social circle? Join a team - shoot pool, bowling, softball, dodgeball. Volunteer somewhere. Connect with college Alumni in your area. Take a couple college credits. Start a fan club. Take a class - salsa, yoga, cooking, whatever.

Most importantly - get off you a$$. Find a reason to matter outside of yourself, grab that sh*t by the balls, And take charge. If you create value for yourself and channel some of into something productive other people can relate to, feed off of, and benefit from - you will attract the people you want to hang with and they in turn will bring more people your way.
This is what a lot of guys should do but when you find most FR and threads are about ONLINE girls then you know where the problem is.

Social skills and good network of friends can do wonder either professionally, in the dating game or life in general.
 

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I have no buddies whatsoever. A few acquaintances but these are guys I met through work. Hence getting into PUA. To be honest I wish there was no need to get involved in PUA culture and have a normal life like the rest of the world. But such is life.
 

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I have just a few friends, everyone I meet seems to be selfish just looking out for themselves, not what I consider a friend.

Something I have realized is that you have to look at your friends and see what they are doing in front of you but backstabbing someone else. When one friend of mine fvcked another friends gf it didnt really sink in at first but eventually I realized that if he could do that to one friend he could do it to any of us. Pay attention to how your friends treat your other friends and how they talk about them behind their backs. Theres a good chance that you arent exempt from that sh1t talking when you arent around.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dk1990S111 said:
When one friend of mine fvcked another friends gf it didnt really sink in at first but eventually I realized that if he could do that to one friend he could do it to any of us.
If you understand anything in life, understand this ^^^

It works the same in all walks of life. Most especially in business and not just love.

You don't have any friends.
 

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I was just gonna ask:

Am I the only one who finds this whole "social circle" thing quite gay?

Fvck a social circle. Nothing but a bunch of gossiping or being forced to deal with friends that you don't like, usually.

Yesterday a friend of mine asked me: "hey, how come you don't have a buddy? I always see you by yourself. You know: if you are good to society, society will be good to you in return". So I asked him "is there anything I can do for you? No? Then what's the problem?"

I don't know whether he was lonely and wanted to be BFF"s with me or wat the fvck the deal was.

I don't dig social circles. I have my friends that I trust, but we're not in any social circle. We are just linked directly, not due to any circle.

Plus - I know people at bars, at school, from the neighborhood, some of them in the gym. I prefer to have my links more individualised, because gossip or groupthink is really a fvcking STAIN on humanity and social interaction nowadays.
 

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HumbleNinja said:
Good replies.

The point of this thread is to get yourselves a GOOD social circle. Not a bunch of dudes simply thirsty for pvssy at all costs.

Get out there. Make friends with tons of people first.

At work, school, through others, at activities, hobbies etc.

Cut out negative ones or people who provide you no use to your core as a person.

If you remain a loner you WILL be susceptible to cult like mentailty online etc. and will wind up letting your brain go insane over sht and start turning into an extreme weirdo.

Once you get a good social circle you WILL meet more chicks. You won't have to rely on "game" as if pvssy is the center of the universe and you need to trip over yourselves to "prove" something to others online etc.

I'm not f*ucking around. Once you start meeting and knowing a lot of cool people chicks and dudes and keep the positive cool ones you'll realize a lot of this nonsense is exactly what it is and you won't need it.

Now of course you should work on improving yourself as far as working out, dressing stylish, grooming and having a solid inner core with true confidence. Not fake BS you learned off the net. Don't rely on people to give you confidence. You have to work on you.

And make sure you take EVERY piece of advice with a grain of salt.

Because you never know who the person really is on the other end offering to "help" you.

Go out and not only work on yourself but meet people for a social circle and you won't get stuck letting your mind go crazy with other lunatics on the net who claim they "don't" but only see life through a piece of azz.

You'll wind up getting chicks regardless. Much like a lot of dudes who've never bothered with SS or "game" period.

Most will realize this eventually. The rest...Good luck.
Good stuff!

This is why I tell guys not to only focus on chicks when they go out sarging. Talk to EVERYBODY. Meet people. Learn how to make friends with everybody. Remember people's names and stories and details about them. Show genuine interest and it will come back to you in spades.

With a decent social circle chicks will literally fall into your lap. It works like compound interest.
 
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