"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How many of you had been dumped by someone...

Have any of you been dumped by someone you loved so much only to become friends?

  • yes

    Votes: 27 61.4%
  • no

    Votes: 17 38.6%

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DJHoolahoop

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This was a question I thought I'd ask on behalf of a couple guys I know who were heart broken and can't "see the light" quite yet. It'd be interesting to know the number of people that have had this happen.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RoeCyris

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aint been dumped since 6th grade (got dumped TWICE! in like 2 months, lol sad days). everything since then has been my choice or mutual.
 

G_S

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For my best friend in the 8th grade, and for another friend in the 11th grade. I was a jackass back then, and should've saw it coming.

Oh, and to become friends? No, I was pretty pissed at the time and ignored them from then on. But that was high school, and i haven't seen them girls for years.


An interesting substory: I once dumped a girl because she was soooo annoying and immature. I was like a junior in high school and she was 8th grade or so, so pretty young back then. Guess what she's doing now? She's a cheerleader for the Cincinnati Bengals! lol
 

DJDanny

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Got turned down by a chick who then tried to set me up with her best friend and when that didn't work dumped her BF for me. So yes staying friends with a chick can actually work out,
 

DJHoolahoop

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or who knows, maybe the guy was worth it. especially if the bf was more afc or wussy. not trying to start shyt, but i know i was a p_ssy ass afc in my last LT relationship and that's why she went for the nice rich boy loser she datin now.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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spukee

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Got dumped ALOT in highschool - I've been doing most of the dumping since then :D
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Hey, **** happens, then you wipe.
 

PRMoon

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I've been dumped HARD before. But it doesn't make a difference cause I usually start acting like an a$$ before hand so the girl usually has every right to dump me.

I've never been dumped by someone I loved though because I can count the number of people I've loved on one hand and usually what'll happen is one of us will move away and I'm not down for LDR's
 

Dominant

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Everyone get's dumped once they start dating around.

Usually, guys get dumped early in their dating days.

I've had like 5 girlfriends, got dumped by 2. This was when I was more AFC.

I don't really have girlfriends now. It's more fun for me to mess around, have more than 1 girl.

That way, 1 girl's actions don't effect you as much. Girls are so emotional, personally I don't think it's a good idea to have only 1. Because then, a lot of your emotion is invested in 1 girl. Not so smart in my opinion.

As far as being friends with a girl that dumped you, that's just plain retarded.

I don't really see much of the point of being friends with girls period unless you have the intention of hooking up with them, or you can use them to hook you up with other girls.

Maybe a couple of genuine female friends TOPS.

But friends with a girl that dumped you? That's a prescription for trouble: one-itis, drama, jealousy. The hell with it.

-Dominant
 

DJHoolahoop

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Originally posted by Dominant
But friends with a girl that dumped you? That's a prescription for trouble: one-itis, drama, jealousy. The hell with it.

-Dominant
Now if only my friend were to actually feel this way. man he's SO afc, god i try to help the guy and all he does is see how he measures up to this chick he's been kissing up to.

he'll just disappear for a month and come back and say "hey! how's it goin! hello? u there? you around?!? guess you're not interested... maybe if i leave for another month you'll be interested again" <-- he don't say that, but his actions are COMPLETELY like that. i've tried helping the guy, but he just DOESN'T get it... i'm almost tempted to just e-mail his ex and ask her if he has a chance and then just telling him to drop this shyt.

but he don't learn.. w/e.. i'm out
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DanishDJ

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Vote no

Ofcause I been dumped my share of times, but never to become friends with an ex, my experience is that it is fake and just a way of making the break seem like less.
 

CraigMack

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And the purpose of this pole is to??? Bring light and positiveness to this forum???

Why don't we concentrate on better things than worry about our pasts!
 
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