"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How many of you fellow djs hate texting?

Vantagepoint34

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Texting I have found to be mostly anti climatic. Definitely kills off conversation on dates. Have any of you found a way around avoiding the text. Or would you continue to throw game sporadically with the occasional text.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It takes time to get good at texting. You have to be able to read between the lines, learn the benefits of capital letters and exclamation points. It doesn't compare to face to face though because that's where she can see you expressions and feel your touch and vibe. I only see text as a bridge to keep the ball rolling in what we've built up.
 

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vantagepoint said:
Texting I have found to be mostly anti climatic. Definitely kills off conversation on dates. Have any of you found a way around avoiding the text. Or would you continue to throw game sporadically with the occasional text.
I think texting only kills conversations on dates when you're having entire conversations via text.

So, I dont hate texting. I just hate reading about the guys on here who have these long-azz, going-nowhere discussions with girls all day on text.

"How was your night?"
"Great! I had cabbage for dinner!"
"I'm allergic to cabbage. How was your morning?"
"Great! I had eggs."
 

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One day, this gal walks into her kitchen. Her husband is in there with a flyswatter swinging away. She ask him what he is doing and he tells her he's killing flies.

Her....How many did you get?
Him....5. 3 males and 2 females!
Her.... Now how the fvck could you know that?
Him....Because I smacked 3 on that beer can and smacked the other two that were texting on that cell phone on the table.

Couldn't resist.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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JohnChops

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meh, i hate it now more than ever. send a text to spark up a convo and then meet up with her. Sometimes ill have some interesting conversation but i keep that to a minimum.
 

pdx1138

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5string said:
One day, this gal walks into her kitchen. Her husband is in there with a flyswatter swinging away. She ask him what he is doing and he tells her he's killing flies.

Her....How many did you get?
Him....5. 3 males and 2 females!
Her.... Now how the fvck could you know that?
Him....Because I smacked 3 on that beer can and smacked the other two that were texting on that cell phone on the table.

Couldn't resist.

HA HA I'll have to use that some time.


I just use text for setting up times to meet. If I get too many from a girl, I just reply to only a few and they usually get it.

The last girl I was with for a couple of months texted every day:
How's your day?

that got old after a week.
 

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Nothing says impersonal like a fvcking text. Unfortunately, you'll rarely find women that prefer calls. They text because they can say no easier, can be social with multiple people at the same time, and respond when they wish. Everything about texting is just so stupid. I use it when I have to. I rarely have to.
 

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There is an art to it. Namely by hardly ever texting them. When she starts texting romantic things and pictures of herself in lingerie then you will tend to enjoy texting.

It's also great because you can text at 4AM sometimes and if they are up they write back immediately. If you ever tried that on a regular phone she'd have you arrested.

Finally, every time you check your phone there is a chance that any of your girls have written to you. They tend to initiate more with text than they used to with phone calls and email, IMO.
 

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I love texting. Just the other night I was texting with three women at the same time to negotiate sex. I had to choose which one to spend the night with so I went around and around and took the best offer. Got me a massage, sex, and taken out for breakfast the next morning. The other two girls spent the night alone.

I couldn't have had all those conversations at the same time over the phone. I felt like friggin Donald Trump except, instead of negotiating for real estate, I was negotiating for p*ssy. It was enormously fun and memorable.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ebracer05

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I hate texting. It's a very lame, impersonal, and feminized form of communication but guys seem to like it because it has the lowest amount of risk associated with it. That's a bad reason btw. I do think guys make a mistake when they look at texting like it's some pivotal facet to their game, like the difference between

"hi"
"hey"

or

"heyyyyyyy"

is going to make some deal breaker difference in whether or not you sleep with them woman. It's not. Guys mess things up with texting when they do as Iceberg said orrrrrr... guys use texting as a means to ameliorate their own insecurity demons. That's a consequence of texting that I don't think is discussed nearly enough.
 

Vantagepoint34

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bigneil said:
There is an art to it. Namely by hardly ever texting them. When she starts texting romantic things and pictures of herself in lingerie then you will tend to enjoy texting.

It's also great because you can text at 4AM sometimes and if they are up they write back immediately. If you ever tried that on a regular phone she'd have you arrested.

Finally, every time you check your phone there is a chance that any of your girls have written to you. They tend to initiate more with text than they used to with phone calls and email, IMO.
Very true about them initiating with text more. Old school is the way to go for me, just phone calls.
 
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