Buck Rogers
Don Juan
just out of curiosty, how many of us in the "DJ" community are in an LTR? a simple yes/no would suffice.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How many of us in LTR's?
- Thread starter Buck Rogers
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
KarmaSutra
Banned
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Yours truly.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
Nope, not even in a relationship, still experimenting with women. Haha.
Trajhenkhet01
Don Juan
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Out of a 4 year approx. 3 months ago.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
yep. approaching its fourth year.
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
Nope
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
bigjohnson
Master Don Juan
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Not an exclusive LTR but some of the girls I'm seeing have been 'with' me for close to a year now.
TheDoctor
Don Juan
11 month LTR
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
imaginemypotential
Don Juan
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- Dec 6, 2008
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negative
TheSplat
Master Don Juan
Yes. Got a great one.
It's the same principles really.ChapStick said:
The one main tip I'd give is to keep improving yourself. Sometimes you'll see guys wondering what happened with their relationship. They get a girl and everything fabulous and its going great and then she starts "acting different" and they'll be left bewildered as to what happened.
What happens usually is that they get the girl. Everything is great but then they get comfortable and they show who they really are after a while. This is a real turn off for the girls because the guy wasn't who they thought he was.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.