"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How many long-term relationships have you had, and how "seriously" do you take them?

The_Reaper

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In the subject line, basically.

A friend of a friend has been going out with this girl since he was 16 or 17 (the only girl he's ever been with, to my knowledge) and I think they have plans to eventually marry. If this happens, am I the only one who thinks: what a WASTE of a life!

But anyway, how many relationships have you had? Do your partners play a strong role in your life - do you work hard to maintain these relationships, do you get very emotionally involved or try not to?

I've just had 4. But these were long term. I know someone's who's been with loads of girls but it was for a short time, and not very meaningful, you could say.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sexy_kuta

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i had two,
i took them very seriously

i wouldnt get into a relationship if i knew i wouldnt commit..
 

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I've had 5 that lasted between 1-4 years, some of them overlapped :up:

I don't take anything seriously, it takes away all the fun of living.
 

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Mine were a few between two to four years, I took them very seriously but I am always willing to break contact in a second if she f**ks with me, as I did last month with my ex of four years.I told her; I don't want to see you ever, I don't want to be your friend, no sms or E Mail.
Her loss not mine.
 

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your friend my not be wasting his life. some people got their sh*t together. i have dated quite alot of girls and it was like trying to find a diamond through the dirt. to me i invested and wasted my time. sure if you date all around it gives you experience of what you want and don't want. but what i would have gave to meet the girl i am with now. i use to think that i was a stud for dating alot of women but when i really looked at how many failed relationships laid in my wake, it wasn't so cool. i would rather have met 1 girl that fit the description i was looking for then waste my time and energy on drama queens.

just because we live in a world of divorce and cheating doesn't mean that everybody walks that line. through the media and people who have experienced bad marriages or relationshiops. they try and pimp their beliefs on people because it did or would not work for them. no 2 human beings are the same. sometimes people look at couples and say those 2 are going to stay together forever and months later they break up or get divorced. then there are couples who look like they are destined for a failed relationship only to stay together forever.

sometimes you only need one shot to get things right. others sometimes need to search forever.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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