"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How many good friends do you have?

How many good friends do you have?

  • 1 or fewer

    Votes: 16 23.5%
  • 2 to 3

    Votes: 24 35.3%
  • 4 to 6

    Votes: 17 25.0%
  • 7 to 10

    Votes: 6 8.8%
  • more than 10

    Votes: 5 7.4%

  • Total voters
    68

I_Only_Live_Once

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I want to know so I can see how people compare. Moved to a new place and I feel like I have to start over.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ChenCristos

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I have a network of people and used to have 5 really good friends but they all joined the military or moved away. Now I have 2 really good ones and a bunch of normal ones
 

Not Quite There

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i used to have friends i considered pretty close, but they changed... i have a few good mates and lots of acquitences, but in terms of reallly good friends, or someone i really get on with/best friend, no one comes to mind. I would love to meet a girl who was also a best friend, not very dj though...
 

familyguyfan

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I've got 6 or 7 guys I would consider my good friends. I've got plenty more normal/regular friends, but those guys are the best.
 

Lifeforce

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Two people I'd die for and tell anything IRL. One lives in town another away.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Oxide

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2 guys who are like brothers to me, my best friends.

one guy in detroit who used to be my best friend.

one guy in canada who is my cousin, blood. my other best friend.

one guy in russia, who is my best friend.


then i got good buds scattared around the world.

I say "best friends" becuase i dont discriminate.. i dont want to pick.
 

Hellboy

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Only 5 that I see regularly.
1 guy I met when I was dating his sister in school. We been friends forever. His LTR GF is also a good friend of mine. 2 of my flatmates, and my best friend is my ex!
 

Climax

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Guy friends I would say about 5 or 6 (but i have MANY more "normal" guy frineds.)

Girl Friends: I would also say about 5 or 6 (but i also have MANY more "normal" girl friends.)


Laterz...
 

I_Only_Live_Once

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I don't have as many friends as some of you.
 
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I used to have like 10 or 15 close friends but after high school most went away to college or they got on hardcore drugs and never came back. Now I'm left with like 2 or 3.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tomatoes

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No Bones

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I dunno if other people fit into this scenario. I have five close buddies. However, in terms of "normal" friends, I only have about two or three.

I mean, there's always quite a few aquaintences, but that's it.

It's hardly an awful situation, but I hope to expand my comfortably normal horizons sometime in the future.
 

Chillisauce

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currently no genuine good friends, many aquatences who probably consider me a friend but if sh1t hit the fan i dont think i could rely on anyone.

Its been a while since i'v had a good friend, one got killed by some drugged aborigine punks, one moved to Europe and the last as another poster said 'changed'.
 

reyalp

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i keep about 3-4 close friends, that's pretty much it

i count close friends as people i could call at 3am and say "hey, my car died on the highway, can you come give me a jump?"
and if they would, that's a close friend.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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