"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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how many girls reject you?

pyros

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I was thinking about this...and in my experience for every girl I banged I got a dozen or more rejections before, it's just insane.

I'm ok looking, tall, fit, nothing particularly ugly about my appearance, fun, chilled out...
so the only reason I can think about is that women have hundreds of options nowadays. It is just like playing the lottery, it is not really about you, its just a matter of luck/probability.

Anyways, lately I've been having more rejections and flakes than ever and of course it is getting frustrating.


What about you guys? how many rejections do you usually get before finding one chick you end up fvcking?

P.S.

Last week I had a date with a chick who seemed pretty enthusiastic about it but she ended up flaking 10 minutes before. She did not text to apologise and she has not contacted me.
Another chick I met while dancing, got her number, she gave it to me and offered her fb as well. Three days later I text her and I get no reply at all.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Makes sense statistically (there's more women in the world) but you can change that by being more selective. Don't always go by looks, pay attention to their body language when they're interacting with you. Personality plays a role too because some want to get to know you in hopes of getting into a relationship.
 

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mel said:
Lately I've realised a shift in the game. Girls want commitment, and if you are giving off the im seeing more than 1 chick vibe they drop you fast as hell.
I agree with this. I was dating a chick recently, as was going well, she asked me a few times if I was dating anyone else. I dodged the question. Next thing I know she texts me saying she can't get together, and she's seeing someone that she is seeking a relationship with. Okay babe. Whatever. Some dweeb took you to dinner a few times and promised you monogamy. I get it.
 

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"Rejection is the key to sexual prosperity" - Louis & Copeland.

Rejection gets us laid for several reasons.

1) It inspires us to improve.
2) We get "scent of a woman".
3) We learn from our mistakes.
4) We have good stories to tell the next girl.

Most of my best scores were preceded by a rejection by a slightly hotter girl.
 

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bigneil said:
"Rejection is the key to sexual prosperity" - Louis & Copeland.

Rejection gets us laid for several reasons.

1) It inspires us to improve.
2) We get "scent of a woman".
3) We learn from our mistakes.
4) We have good stories to tell the next girl.

Most of my best scores were preceded by a rejection by a slightly hotter girl.

I always have to remind myself of that. If you are not getting rejected then you are pretty much not doing much approaching. I have to approach more girls during the day, possibly get more rejections but it's all part of building a small roster.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cold approaching for average men comes with a lot of rejection. It comes with the territory.
mel said:
Lately I've realised a shift in the game. Girls want commitment, and if you are giving off the im seeing more than 1 chick vibe they drop you fast as hell.
I don't see a "shift" in this direction, at all. Unless we're talking about women who are in their late 20's and up (getting close if not already hitting the wall). That or they don't have a lot of money and/or people who can bail them out.

The only other thing I can see is a woman who isn't that interested in you and decides that your lack of commitment (pandering) means you're not going to be of much use to her, which I think is great. The sooner she leaves the sooner you can move on to the next prospect.
 

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I have most probably had more rejections then hot dinners.
 

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I'm 27 and I find that the Bangbuddy game is alot drier the older the women are.

I have to hit up the 22/23 year olds for the naughty NSA fun.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I'm kind of a cherry picker so my success rate is pretty high however when I'm in a bar and just randomly approaching its extremely low probably 1 in 20
Where do you go to be a cheery picker?
 

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Because it takes bravery to risk rejection, often a woman will lose interest if we do not take that risk. Likewise, a girl who is rejecting you will often change her mind based on the fact you were fearless. Also, once she rejects you, it's not really over forever. She will reevaluate based on your REACTION to her rejection. They learn a LOT about us based on how we handle the rejection. Do we just walk away? Do we throw a temper tantrum? Do we stalk her and make threats? Do we say "I spent $865 for nothing!!".

Finally, remember that rejections are relative. You meet a girl and she likes you. You get her number and she replies. You ask for a date and she goes. She kisses you. You get another date. Then she says no and you feel rejected. Don't forget all the milestones you achieved.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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GS750 said:
I agree with this. I was dating a chick recently, as was going well, she asked me a few times if I was dating anyone else. I dodged the question. Next thing I know she texts me saying she can't get together, and she's seeing someone that she is seeking a relationship with. Okay babe. Whatever. Some dweeb took you to dinner a few times and promised you monogamy. I get it.

I LOL'd at the some dweeb part. Definitely using that.
 

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Clooney is married. Let's not go the binary route now.

I'd imagine the reasons are the same for why you crave monogamy so much.

Enjoying the company of a woman who cares for you, building a family, etc.

Your belief seems to center round the idea that either a man wants or must be monogamous for life or embraces and attitude of casual sex/serial short term monogamy.

I simply understand this to be a false dichotomy and appreciate that the two don't need to be mutually exclusive nor are they in several societies that don't have the rigid, and in my opinion flawed, moral code that conflicts with what women would actually be willing to tolerate.
sounds good, where can i find women who tolerate this
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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