"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How Many Flakes Till You Next?

manfrombelow

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My personal rule:

1/ If she flakes but willingly proposes an alternative date & time with an apology, I'll let it slide aka give her the chance to make it up to me, to see where things go.

2/ If she flakes without even trying to propose an alternative date & time? IMMEDIATE NEXT.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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One. If she doesn't make an effort to re-schedule
Ranger Mike nails it again. Key word here is EFFORT on her part.

Flake and no counter offer? Next. Dont even waste your time following up with her. Do not pursue, chase, etc. She either hits you up making new plans or be dust in the wind.

If she counter offers and then something again comes up- Next.

If she counter offers and doesnt really stay in contact afterwards- flake on her @ss when the time comes. Tell her "Sorry, something came up" when she texts you from the venue after you dont show up.

Stop accepting sh!tty behavior from these women.
 

AureliusMaximus

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One.
If she doesn´t (or anyone for that sake) have respect for my time then I have no respect for that person either.

Afterall the most valuble and precious commodity we humans "have" is time. We can never get lost time back when someone waste it for us.
I hate it too when people come late for the same reason. Many chicks doesn´t seem to understand the concept of time which sort of a issue imo.
My 5 cents tho.
 

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Just curious about what your personal standards are.

For me two flakes is a straight up NEXT

Language such as.. maybe, soon, will see, might, busy right now, maybe later etc.. I simply class this as low interest & don't bother to pursue any further.

I find singles moms are the worst for this kinda thing
One
Not recommending that. It's just my personal choice. My time is extremely valuable.
 

Xanderson

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Just curious about what your personal standards are.

For me two flakes is a straight up NEXT

Language such as.. maybe, soon, will see, might, busy right now, maybe later etc.. I simply class this as low interest & don't bother to pursue any further.

I find singles moms are the worst for this kinda thing
Agree, twice then delete or sometimes only once !
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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One strike and she is out, if she is genuinely interested then she would make the time for you.
So they tell you 'no' by just not showing up and hope you get the hint.
Most guys don't get the hint and continue chasing.

On the other hand, if she's a plate and we made plans and she did not show up, I will call her. Because for all I know she might got into car accident on her way to see me. From there it all depends on circumstances
Even if it's a girlfriend or a male friend, I wouldn't tolerate a flake. When i make plans I stick to it and always follow through. I've cut out "friends" who I had known for years because they flaked on meetups with terrible excuses like "im busy" or "im sick"
 
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