How many close buds do you have?

[TonyBaloney]

Was just reading the "are you an introvert" post, which suprisingly for SS, has gained alot of yes replies.

Adding to that, I'm wondering if us guys who are ladies men, are seeking out a best friend/lover in the women we meet.

I have 2 buds that i'm very close to, and a couple more that I see very infrquently. Was wondering if this was normal - perhaps more pals would equate to a less intense need to skirt chase?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Hard to answer, I think only 1 or 2 I think I can rely on but not even sure.

However I happen to get close very easily to other men who share my same goals, Im talking about man of deviant morality whos only purpose in this world is getting money and pvssy, somehow its like we find each other and it seems we knew each other from much long even after a few minute talking.
With this men the crave for those two things is able to simulate the bond of a real friendship even if its not.

This happens in any place I go, no matter the culture or the religion of the place.

 

[MisterD]

I'm kind of strange. I don't mind going to social events and meeing new people. I feel like i gel extremely well with strangers 9 times out of 10. When I go out and meet friends of my close friends we always hit it off, but i never ask for their number (unless it's a chick)

I'm not really down with the acquaintance thing. I have 2 or 3 friends I'm extremely close to and the rest is chicks I talk to.

Although, I feel like we're at a point where we're focused on our careers/adulthood and we don't hang as much, so I may start looking for new people to hang out with.

 

[MrJibbles]

I used to have a group of 4 or 5 very close friends and other "buddies/acquaintances" from high school, but we have all moved to different cities. I only keep in touch with one of them, who I would consider my best friend and confidant, but we now live on opposite sides of the globe. I also had a close friend, my roommate from first year uni, who I had a lot in common with, but unfortunately I don't really keep in touch with him.

Right now, I have one cousin who I'm pretty good buds with (we work out, play basketball together, and have convos about girls, sports, music, etc), and his friends and my other cousins and extended family, although not as close to me, constitute what I would call my "social circle". That is to say, I see them at family events a lot and occasionally play sports with them. I don't really talk to them other than at those times.

I have been new in town for about 5 months now and have not really found a true social circle yet. My buddies from high school were true bros to the end for me, we had A LOT in common, but right now, I have found myself having to adjust my interests to fit in with the friends I have now.

With my other friends, I could hold intelligent conversations with them, had very similar tastes in music, and actually felt a "connection" with them.

As for now, I'm really just a loner because, due to a combination of poor social skills and lack of initiative and being new in town, I have been unable to find such people to connect with at a deeper level.

Another forum member suggested I download "Social Circle Mastery" by Love Systems, which I believe may help me a lot. I will check it out when I get the chance.

 

[Weeks]

I've got 2 really close buds that I can share just about anything with.

One is really mature and intelligent social-wise but is in an unhappy relationship which he allows to hinder him. They connect on an intellectual level and have been going out for like 4 years, but aren't attracted to eachother; basically, they're like a married couple, except their 20. He's really articulate when it comes to saying why he and I can't do things. And whenever we talk about relationships he tries to convince me that they're all just about as bad as his. Its awful, especially because it works a lot of the time. I love him, but he brings me down too much.

The other is immature, selfish, extraordinarily smart, fat, and will **** anything that moves. He started going out with a total butherface almost a year ago, and man have I never seen a girl so whipped to a guy. She drives 3 hours one way EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND to see him, and they **** like 12 times... in one weekend. No, seriously. And he still masturbates 3-4 times a day in the off time. The fact that I know his masturbation habits tells me that we are pretty ****ing good friends. Is that weird? hah.

The fact that these two, and just about all of my other, less close friends, are all in relationships is a constant frustration.

 

[FairShake]

Depends on what you mean by close. I am a bit luckier than your average PUA geek in that I have more than a dozen geeky friends that I hang out with AT LEAST every other month. Some I used to work with, some I know from the basketball court or mountain biking, some are volunteer firefighters with me.

Ironically for someone on this board my most important friendships are mostly female. They are the ones that really know me and have the deepest connection. Most of my guy friends are great to drink with, ride with, and joke around with but it's pretty surface level. Of my 5 deepest friendships 4 are female. And I've found that I'm not the only one like this...alot of guys have their deepest friendships with females.

 

[dutchmaster]

3. rest are friends but not as close as those 3

 

[slitherjef]

A doughnut.
Well, one but he is too busy chasing ass, working and raising his kid(s) and only really contacts me when he wants something. Hey man, you got a camcorder?

Hell I think I have closer friends at work then outside.