penkitten
Master Don Juan
i think once you have to ask, then you have enough on your plate already.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How many can we juggle?
- Thread starter kingwilliam
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Sweet....penkitten said:
Yours too grinder...
Of course.Francisco d'Anconia said:This type of thing is not unheard of if you're able to make enough of an impact on a person during the times you are together. Plus it helps that you don't drop the plate and it breaks on the floor. You just kinda pack it away for safe keeping. Every one in a while it gets unpacked and dusted off.
Over the past couple of years I've made a conscious effort to ensure that every woman I deal with ALWAYS looks at me as a man. And that means that the ones who are physically attracted to me will continue to be physically attracted to me.
But you do have to admit that to really spin plates you can't just put them away and pull them out again at will. Might work with some, but for the most part they will require at least a minimal amount of attention.
One of my "plates" is going to school up north and getting ready to come back into town in a couple of weeks as a matter of fact.
It's good to be able to put the bubble wrap on some of them when they're not in use!
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
lol. Now I got the old Kinks tune in me head:
... and when you're old and gray you will remember what they said: that two girls are too many, three's a crowd, and four you're dead
I presume Ray Davies wasn't talking about just dating, but there's some truth in the "four you're dead" bit.
... and when you're old and gray you will remember what they said: that two girls are too many, three's a crowd, and four you're dead
I presume Ray Davies wasn't talking about just dating, but there's some truth in the "four you're dead" bit.