How many approaches per day should i aim for?

[Tear Gas]

i'm gonna start approaching hotties at my school's campus starting monday, but i was just wondering how many approaches you guys make per day. I think one GOOD approach per day is enough. Good as in, i know for sure my approach is going somewhere and she's interested or if we have coffee right then and there..

What do you guys think of my approach..i'm gonna try and make eye contact first if i can, but i'm gonna approach a hb i like regardless

Me: "Excuse me, what's your name?"
HB: "hottie"
Me: "Oh, i just noticed you and had to meet you"

then ill get basic rapport and ask her to have coffee then or later, which then ill get her number.

 

[ezily]

Yeah I just wouldn't expect to get a whole lot girls falling for you and going to get coffee. Most girls just don't go out with a guy they barely know right then and there. There are exceptions of course and you may get lucky, but don't count on it (btw I'm sorry if I sound like a downer. I'm just trying to be realistic). Sure you may get a few numbers but I just somehow doubt doing a cold approach like that will get you anywhere with most girls. If you're doing it to gain confidence then that's great! but if you actually are expecting to meet someone then don't get your hopes up. Also, I think that approach you plan on doing is weak. HBs will probably see it as creepy and not flattering. They'll be more open in a place where it's more natural to meet people and they won't be so put off by it and surprised at first. You know... just go into class and sit next to a girl you find attractive and just start a conversation. Show her you're confident, funny, and bust on her some. That's just more natural IMO.

So if you want to meet girls go somewhere in a natural setting so you can have something to talk about (e.g. the school gym, a cafeteria, before or after class, etc.). Approaching girls as they walk to class probably won't turn out the way you expect. Your opener seems lame and girls can pick up on guys who are interested in them from the get go. They may take you as being needy and a wuss. Sure, they'll be nice and polite and talk to you and maybe give you their number but unless you're just one hell of a catch and they know it then don't expect too much. You'll find a lot of flakes using this route. But if you can build rapport in a comfortable, natural setting (see what I said above) over a period of time then you have a much better chance with college girls. You know they don't want to seem like a slut or anything.

 

[aldaris]

ANOTHER ALDARIS RULE

the younger the girl, the more she desires your father. the french have understood this for generations. they make a lot of movies on the subject that end up collecting inches of dust at your local video store.

you sound like a fan asking her for an autograph. you are the last type of male she is interested in. maybe she will be nice and let you get a picture with her. you can post it on your myspace account. it will validate your studliness to girls a thousand miles away.

hitting on random girls will only work if you are getting out of your s-class benz. feel free to hit away if that is you. if not you need something less obvious.

 

[Tear Gas]

thanks for the advice ezily, i understand where you're coming from, but i just don't want to pass up on HBs that i don't have class with. There are not many HBs in my classes anyway. Yes, my approach can put a hottie on the spot, but if she's attracted to you at first glance, i don't see my approach not working. You're being very polite and honest with your intentions and also have a nice little convo with her so you make her feel comfortable so then she won't feel like a slut having coffee with you or giving you her number. Yes, my intentions are pretty obvious, but you have to be in that situation...it doesn't really matter if you're indirect or direct, if she wants you, she wants you.

I'm not just going up to them, saying that line and expecting her to f*ck me hahaha...that's just my opener, im gonna talk to her for at least a few minutes to make her comfortable(establish rapport) then ask her to coffee or get the number. I know many girls that would want to go out with a guy just from looks alone, so i dont see my approach not working.

 

[tsmith2334]

ANOTHER ALDARIS RULE

you sound like a fan asking her for an autograph. you are the last type of male she is interested in. maybe she will be nice and let you get a picture with her. you can post it on your myspace account. it will validate your studliness to girls a thousand miles away.

hitting on random girls will only work if you are getting out of your s-class benz. feel free to hit away if that is you. if not you need something less obvious.

this describes my thoughts on cold approaching!

 

[Tear Gas]

wow, seems like the depressed bitter kids like to come on around this time. I guess all the real players are out being direct and hitting on girls right now LOL

IF A GIRL WANTS YOU AT FIRST GLANCE, BEING DIRECT IS THE BEST

 

[ElStud]

To be honest, approach as much as you want. But you really shouldn't limit yourself to a certain number of approaches though, basically, if you see a girl you want to approach approach her. Myself? I don't have a 'set' number of approaches in mind, I just go up to random girls and approach them. Heck, I don't even have to be attracted to them to approach them, because when it comes down to it, hot or not, seduction works the same. As for your approach, could work, could not, all depends on what you're sub communicating and really it's just an opener. Although, BEFORE going for rapport, make sure you give value to the girl and build attraction. Going straight for rapport is going to end badly unless the girl is already attracted to you or something. Also don't go in there with output in mind, as in don't go up there with the mindset "Ooh, I got to get her number", however, just focus on having a fun interaction with her. If you've felt you had a fun interaction with her and you want to move on, go get the number.

 

[ezily]

thanks for the advice ezily, i understand where you're coming from, but i just don't want to pass up on HBs that i don't have class with. There are not many HBs in my classes anyway. Yes, my approach can put a hottie on the spot, but if she's attracted to you at first glance, i don't see my approach not working. You're being very polite and honest with your intentions and also have a nice little convo with her so you make her feel comfortable so then she won't feel like a slut having coffee with you or giving you her number.

I'm not just going up to them, saying that line and expecting her to f*ck me hahaha...that's just my opener, im gonna talk to her for at least a few minutes to make her comfortable(establish rapport) then ask her to coffee or get the number. I know many girls that would want to go out with a guy just from looks alone, so i dont see my approach not working.

haha hey man go for it! I mean there's plenty of hot girls walking around my college. I'm not scared to talk to them or anything but I just don't really have the desire to seeing as I don't see it leading anywhere. Just remember that I only think this way about certain situations. I don't like to approach in random places like a bus stop, out in front of some random classroom, on the sidewalk walking to class, etc. But sure there are girls who would probably be up for something. I'm not a huge fan of cold approaches but I like to approach in a more natural setting (gym, class, study areas, etc.), not catching them when their own their way to class. Personally, I like to talk first (you know just building rapport in a C&F manner) and then the next time I see them somewhere, or after class or something, is when I hit them up for a number, coffee, etc if I've gotten good vibes from them. I've had more success this way. In purely cold approaches I wouldn't be surprised to get a number but would be really surprised if she didn't flake. Sometimes I like to get numbers and never call, just to mess with them.

But you're right. If they have an instant physical attraction to you and you portray a confident and cool attitude then you can't go wrong. Personally, I just don't like catching someone off guard. Keep us posted when you start doing this. I would be interested to see their reactions.

 

[Tear Gas]

To be honest, approach as much as you want. But you really shouldn't limit yourself to a certain number of approaches though, basically, if you see a girl you want to approach approach her. Myself? I don't have a 'set' number of approaches in mind, I just go up to random girls and approach them. Heck, I don't even have to be attracted to them to approach them, because when it comes down to it, hot or not, seduction works the same. As for your approach, could work, could not, all depends on what you're sub communicating and really it's just an opener. Although, BEFORE going for rapport, make sure you give value to the girl and build attraction. Going straight for rapport is going to end badly unless the girl is already attracted to you or something. Also don't go in there with output in mind, as in don't go up there with the mindset "Ooh, I got to get her number", however, just focus on having a fun interaction with her. If you've felt you had a fun interaction with her and you want to move on, go get the number.

thanks...how do you give "value" or build attraction before gaining rapport. Being ****y+funny, negging her etc?

 

[tsmith2334]

wow, seems like the depressed bitter kids like to come on around this time. I guess all the real players are out being direct and hitting on girls right now LOL

IF A GIRL WANTS YOU AT FIRST GLANCE, BEING DIRECT IS THE BEST

nothing bitter about it dude. i just don't like cold approaching.

regardless of how good you're strategy is, i still view it as a crapshoot (which is what it is by definition).

plus, at the end of the day, i'd rather say i met my partner through some kind of respectable manner, as opposed to the human equivalent of baiting and fishing.

and if cold approaches and pick ups were really so succesful and foolproof, wouldn't this be the most popular site on the internet?

 

[aldaris]

nothing bitter about it dude. i just don't like cold approaching.

regardless of how good you're strategy is, i still view it as a crapshoot (which is what it is by definition).

plus, at the end of the day, i'd rather say i met my partner through some kind of respectable manner, as opposed to the human equivalent of baiting and fishing.

and if cold approaches and pick ups were really so succesful and foolproof, wouldn't this be the most popular site on the internet?

you get ALDARIS reps for that one. if you are going to go after your peer group you had better have an angle.


depressed bitter kids? uh, no little boy. the girls you are trying to pickup would slap your pimply face away to spend the afternoon with me. that i can promise you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

How many approaches per day should i aim for?

I aim for enough to have no regrets. Approaching every hb who gives you subtle IOI like smiles and eye contact is more important than any arbitrary number.

 

[mackdaddy27]

dear friend.


Its not the Number of appraoches you do a day.


IF you dont know what your doing, YOu could do 100x approaches a day and you 'd never get 1 success.


Even if you did 1 approach, but practiced the game properly, that is more useful..

 

[ready123]

approach whenever you hear that nagging voice in the back of your head telling you that you have an opportunity right in front of you and if you don't act, you're gonna go home feeling like a pvssy