I know this girl wants me, but she has a boyfriend. I think he graduated last year so it's pretty much a LDR at this point. How long do you guys think I need to wait for her to break up with him? She is totally infatuated with me and always looking at me and I notice she dresses sexier on days when we'll have class together. I think all I have to do now is continue to build her trust (she's very shy) until she is sure about me. Any thoughts on this?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How long will it take a girl to break up with her boyfriend?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Beware of being the "Rebound Guy." :nono:
edmond
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In the blink of an eye.But how long will the boyfriend take, or should, to dump her when he finds out?
In the blink of an eye.But how long will the boyfriend take, or should, to dump her when he finds out?
Kev07
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i would say don't wait and just make a move.
she seems infatuated with you and her bf is an LDR go for it.
she seems infatuated with you and her bf is an LDR go for it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i was in exactly the same situation,he ended up dumping her she was sad but 2 weeks later,we started dating.. then 12 days later YES 12 days later,she broke it off because she "rushed into it..." so whatever you do,when she dumps him drag it out for a bit before you's start going out or she could think she rushed into it and waste your time,just like she wasted 12 good days of mine
It depends on how well you connect and all. I'm in a similiar situation right now and just got back from the girls house after hooking up.
I've known her for about a week and it seems that she's going to dump her BF in a short time period.
I just talk to them a lot and get in well with the needs they display. Are you looking for a relationship with this girl or a hook up? From what you've said it seems that you can hook up with her quite easily. If you're looking for a relationship you can subtly show her how much better you are than her boyfriend. That can get tricky though as to not seem so obvious as to what you are doing. I avoided discussing her boyfriend unless she brought him up, and when we don't talk about him I just build comfort and attraction with some phrases to make her realize how much better I am than he is.
I've known her for about a week and it seems that she's going to dump her BF in a short time period.
I just talk to them a lot and get in well with the needs they display. Are you looking for a relationship with this girl or a hook up? From what you've said it seems that you can hook up with her quite easily. If you're looking for a relationship you can subtly show her how much better you are than her boyfriend. That can get tricky though as to not seem so obvious as to what you are doing. I avoided discussing her boyfriend unless she brought him up, and when we don't talk about him I just build comfort and attraction with some phrases to make her realize how much better I am than he is.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
Question is: are you just as infatuated with her??Francisco d'Anconia said:Beware of being the "Rebound Guy." :nono:
If not I say you just go for the rebound sex.
Okay, Zero, let me break it down for you. The real problem is that you're not sure about yourself. Are you interested in her boyfriend? Are you desperate for some fabulously hot male-on-male action? If not, stop thinking about him! He's not part of the equation. When the next opportunity to approach her arises, get your game face on and make your move. If you can establish yourself as the clearly superior choice, it's as simple as touch and go.Zero Hero said:I know this girl wants me, but she has a boyfriend. I think he graduated last year so it's pretty much a LDR at this point. How long do you guys think I need to wait for her to break up with him? She is totally infatuated with me and always looking at me and I notice she dresses sexier on days when we'll have class together. I think all I have to do now is continue to build her trust (she's very shy) until she is sure about me. Any thoughts on this?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.