I know this girl wants me, but she has a boyfriend. I think he graduated last year so it's pretty much a LDR at this point. How long do you guys think I need to wait for her to break up with him? She is totally infatuated with me and always looking at me and I notice she dresses sexier on days when we'll have class together. I think all I have to do now is continue to build her trust (she's very shy) until she is sure about me. Any thoughts on this?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How long will it take a girl to break up with her boyfriend?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Beware of being the "Rebound Guy." :nono:
edmond
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In the blink of an eye.But how long will the boyfriend take, or should, to dump her when he finds out?
In the blink of an eye.But how long will the boyfriend take, or should, to dump her when he finds out?
Kev07
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i would say don't wait and just make a move.
she seems infatuated with you and her bf is an LDR go for it.
she seems infatuated with you and her bf is an LDR go for it.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
i was in exactly the same situation,he ended up dumping her she was sad but 2 weeks later,we started dating.. then 12 days later YES 12 days later,she broke it off because she "rushed into it..." so whatever you do,when she dumps him drag it out for a bit before you's start going out or she could think she rushed into it and waste your time,just like she wasted 12 good days of mine
It depends on how well you connect and all. I'm in a similiar situation right now and just got back from the girls house after hooking up.
I've known her for about a week and it seems that she's going to dump her BF in a short time period.
I just talk to them a lot and get in well with the needs they display. Are you looking for a relationship with this girl or a hook up? From what you've said it seems that you can hook up with her quite easily. If you're looking for a relationship you can subtly show her how much better you are than her boyfriend. That can get tricky though as to not seem so obvious as to what you are doing. I avoided discussing her boyfriend unless she brought him up, and when we don't talk about him I just build comfort and attraction with some phrases to make her realize how much better I am than he is.
I've known her for about a week and it seems that she's going to dump her BF in a short time period.
I just talk to them a lot and get in well with the needs they display. Are you looking for a relationship with this girl or a hook up? From what you've said it seems that you can hook up with her quite easily. If you're looking for a relationship you can subtly show her how much better you are than her boyfriend. That can get tricky though as to not seem so obvious as to what you are doing. I avoided discussing her boyfriend unless she brought him up, and when we don't talk about him I just build comfort and attraction with some phrases to make her realize how much better I am than he is.
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Master Don Juan
Question is: are you just as infatuated with her??Francisco d'Anconia said:Beware of being the "Rebound Guy." :nono:
If not I say you just go for the rebound sex.
Okay, Zero, let me break it down for you. The real problem is that you're not sure about yourself. Are you interested in her boyfriend? Are you desperate for some fabulously hot male-on-male action? If not, stop thinking about him! He's not part of the equation. When the next opportunity to approach her arises, get your game face on and make your move. If you can establish yourself as the clearly superior choice, it's as simple as touch and go.Zero Hero said:I know this girl wants me, but she has a boyfriend. I think he graduated last year so it's pretty much a LDR at this point. How long do you guys think I need to wait for her to break up with him? She is totally infatuated with me and always looking at me and I notice she dresses sexier on days when we'll have class together. I think all I have to do now is continue to build her trust (she's very shy) until she is sure about me. Any thoughts on this?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.