How long to wait...

[silverwex]

So you're texting a girl (dont flame guys, its the norm here) and youre getting on great with her and youve met before and all that.

Then you text her one day, she replies, you text again, but then she doesnt reply.

How long to wait b4 u get in touch with her again?

Thanks

 

[gm8384]

Whenever YOU want to. Do things because you want to, not because you worry what others will think. So, if you are tired of waiting to text her...DO IT. If you don't want to talk to her for a while, then DON'T.

 

[silverwex]

Cheers man, I mean if somebody else asked me the question I asked you guys Id answer it in a second! When you're in the position its hard to help yourself sometimes!

 

[squirrels]

As long as you've been here, if you STILL have to ask this kind of question, then we can't help you.

1) Text messaging/E-chat is weak. If you want to send her a single message with a single reply, text is fine. If you want to hold a conversation, do it in person, or over the phone if it's fairly limited.

2) There is NO rule on how long you should wait to text this girl again. In fact, the fact that you're even ASKING suggests that you're insecure with this girl and are worried she's going to dump you over something as petty as waiting TWO days to contact her again instead of FOUR days. Don't wait so long that she loses interest, but don't jump on her so soon that you smother her and come off needy. Anything in between those two extremes is up to you. It's YOUR life, YOU decide how you want to spend it.

 

[silverwex]

Cheers squirrells, i know! I felt stupid even asking it but sometimes it helps to ask others to clarify the situation.

Thanks again.

 

[MindOverMatter]

Do the same to her. Stop texting her, disappear off the radar (no phonecalls, no texts etc), flirt (or hook-up if you don't have any moral dilemmas) with other girls. When she texts you, don't respond. When she calls you, tell her you can't talk long because you're expecting a call (don't say from who). If she asks to do something, tell her you're a bit busy for the next while, and that you'll see if you can do something with her once things clear up. then say you'll talk to her later(note - don't say you'll call later, just say "talk"), and end the call.

Wait 5-8 days. If she contacts you again during this period, keep doing the same stuff. Once the period is up, call her, and make some plans. If she refuses, tell her it's np, you'll go with someone else. And don't contact her again, she's not interested.

If she accepts, you hold the power now, don't lose it. Don't respond to all of her texts, only call her to make plans.

 

[Bronxtal112]

I agree with mind. Girls absolutely wonder/think when you suddenly stop acknowledging them whether it be through text messages, phone calls, or face to face conversations.