I had a fun friday night. On Sunday, she found me on facebook/msn and we talked for a while. Then on Monday, we talked very briefly (i initiated the contact). It's Tuesday now...I think I should wait till tomorrow or so and then ask her out, otherwise it's too much contact in too little time? What do you guys think?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How long to wait
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
apusislaya
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I think you want to see her again soon. Tell her, I want to meet you again soon and find out more about you. Then take her out to a place where she can enjoy being with a man and you can enjoy being with a woman. I don't know, but not a movie, lol
I think that if your gut feeling is like its too soon it probably is. Give it a day or so, one day of no contact isn't going to screw anything up imo and it gives her space and time to miss your attention
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Pathgen said:
We're on the same page. I'd go without contact for a day, maybe two. Throw a little curve ball in there. Then initiate contact and ask her out again. Do it on your terms. Control the whole process. You'll have more success that way.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
Solid advice in a nutshell. MAN UP.DonS said:
My suggestion:
You should wait as long as you want to, and as long as you can.
It is YOUR call.
Keep sending mixed signals.. show interest and next day show some disinterest.
Play the game exactly like the girls do.
Girls are always spinning multiple plates, they are masters of this game. Why don't we give them a taste of their own medicine.:rock:
Metaphysical
Senior Don Juan
don't calculate every little detail, go with the flow man. ask her when it feels right to you. if it feels like she is interested and she's willing to take it to the next level, just tell her to meet up with you over coffee.