"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How long till you introduce girl to parents? general concensus

When do you introduce a girl to your parents?

  • 2-4 weeks

    Votes: 3 13.0%
  • 2-4 months

    Votes: 10 43.5%
  • 6 months

    Votes: 2 8.7%
  • 6 months - 1 year

    Votes: 3 13.0%
  • 1yr +

    Votes: 2 8.7%
  • other

    Votes: 3 13.0%

  • Total voters
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ScrewIt

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Im just wondering how long the majority of you wait till you bring the girl to meet your parents.

Today's turkey day and i'd be obliged to bring this girl i've been seeing over for dinner. Afterall she probably doesnt have plans and she's living alone. But i wonder if this is too soon since we've only been seeing each other for about 2 weeks.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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syncmaster

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Do you want her to meet your parents? Is this an LTR or a FB? Is she ready and does she want to? You can't put a time constraint on these things. Just do what feels right.
 

seanchai

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My parents live in London, I'm in Seattle. So however long it takes her to save the money to get there.
 

ScrewIt

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Originally posted by syncmaster
Do you want her to meet your parents? Is this an LTR or a FB? Is she ready and does she want to? You can't put a time constraint on these things. Just do what feels right.
It might be too soon to meet the parents. But i dont want her to feel left out and lonely on thanksgiving, she's a sweet girl.

LTR? well we've only been on a few dates so far...so cant say much if it is..

Anyway i might call her up later and see what her plans are for today, but i think i'd probably just be pushing to much if i asked her if she'd like to come over. i dunno ill think of something
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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This like many other things pertaining to women, can not and should not be etched in stone. Consideration on the type of parents you have, the type of girl she is and the type of relationship you have together. Remember the movie "Meet the Parents?"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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VSIDEBOY

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Just say that your mum has said that she is welcome to come for dinner if she would like to. Then if your girl panics or isnt ready to meet your parents just yet then she can make up an excuse.

I personally think that is better than saying 'I'd like you to come and meet my parents'
 

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Actually previously we've spoken about families. I learned quite a lot about her family and so has she about mine. Surprisingly her parents sound very familiar to mine. i and she as well as our parents share similar values

Well, just got off the phone. Before i got out a peep about joining us for dinner, she said she had to go to some dinner with her dad's relatives.

She didnt want to go as she told me its cold out, and then i offered her to join us for dinner if she didnt feel like going to the other dinner. Alls well and ends well. Of course she agreed to the other dinner so it would be rude to cancel them. She said it was nice of me to invite her and apologized for not being able to come.

Another opportunity awaits at x-mas!
 
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a month to two months

imo my parents came out for a parents weekend and they met my girlfriend in the first week of us seeing each other.

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The time differs for me. They never meet my parents b4 they have to really unless its been a few months and its never happened. But I'm living at home for a little at the mo so obviously she is going to meet them the 1st or 2nd time she comes over so my parents are not worried about stranger in the house. Otherwise I would just invite her to a family get together when i thought we were good
 

WORKEROUTER

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Only time she's purposely meeting my parents is if I am serious about marrying her...and that seems a LONG way away!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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DonJuanMonk

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Whenever after a month of dating, but it shouldn't be formal
 

Freeman

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Originally posted by syncmaster
Do you want her to meet your parents? Is this an LTR or a FB? Is she ready and does she want to? You can't put a time constraint on these things. Just do what feels right.

Well said snycman...ya cant put something like that on a plan basis-but moreso when you FEEL that she's worthy of meeting your family-for me I only present the BEST to my family...
Good luck with that!
 

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when she is pregnant
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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If it gets to the point where we're spending alot of time together I'll bring her over to meet the 'rents. That would anywhere from a month to a month and a half.. by then, you've established that you're getting semi serious.
 
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