How long should I wait to call after a GREAT date?

[INXS]

Suppose you had a date and it went great. You did all the right things. Leaned back. Did the kiss test. Got some nice making out and lots of smiles and laughs on her end. Busted her balls. Stole her frame. Used lots of ****y comedy. Gave some mixed signals along the way..was fun and unpredicatable. Date was Sat. All we did was walk around an outside shopping center, went to a resturant, and only had water. (Get this: I casually just said as we were walking. I'm thirsty. Lets go get something to drink. We walked in, ordered 2 waters, continued the conversation over water on a lovely summer day. Love it.) When would be a good day to call? I considered Monday. What do you guys think? I'd love to hear different perspectives on this one.

 

[vp171s]

I'd say wednesday. That way if she diggs you, she'll be pretty antsy and eager to hear from you.

Lets see what others say.

 

[GatorBait]

Call just to set up the next date, not to just chat with her. I like Wednesday evening as well, gives you a few days to get your work/school set up for the week and let the attraction and interest simmer.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Typically, I just send a follow up email saying that I had a nice time, short and simple, that's it. I even had a thread on it on ecards on the enotalone. com site put up yesterday on the 'Dating' section, where it was concluded that a short email follow up saying you had a nice time and to wish the other person a good week is enough. This email is sent usually the following day and it is more like a 'reinforcement' that basically there was a good time, and to guage the level of interest a day after the date. How long does she take to reply to it? Does she reply to it? Does she say she also had a good-time? Does she say not to call or email her again?

Second dates should be arranged at the end of the first date, so when you are asking for a second date, you are not really asking, you will take words out of her mouth and say, you remember we agreed to go xyz at the end of the first date, and take it from there. So you are following up with it, not really asking her out for another date, you are reiterating what was already arranged.

 

[INXS]

Nice! I love it here! Thanks guys!

 

[INXS]

Typically, I just send a follow up email saying that I had a nice time, short and simple, that's it. I even had a thread on it on ecards on the enotalone. com site put up yesterday on the 'Dating' section, where it was concluded that a short email follow up saying you had a nice time and to wish the other person a good week is enough.

Second dates should be arranged at the end of the first date, so when you are asking for a second date, you are not really asking, you will take words out of her mouth and say, you remember we agreed to go xyz at the end of the first date, and take it from there. So you are following up with it, not really asking her out for another date, you are reiterating what was already arranged.

I think David D. might sort of disagree with this logic though. Have a look cus I might be misreading you:

If a first date is going well, would you try to set up the second date right then and there?

Never make a date on a date. This is a biggie.

When you're out with a woman and you try to make plans to see her again, you're basically letting the wuss out of the bag. This tells her instantly that she has you, which means the chase -- and the fun -- is over.

Instead, make it your goal to get her to ask you to hang out again. Let her do the chasing. Women love a man who is challenging and unpredictable, so don't blow this for you or for her.

This is the No. 1 "killer" of second dates for guys who think they are good with women.

Source: http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_150/182b_dating_tips_a.html

However, I suppose if you do it in the right way, the woman will ask you for the date...?:rock:

 

[Centaurion]

Uhm....

I think people who has never gotton laid and is obviously a fvck up in life should be banned from advising others. That means you Luke.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=104381
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=101377

It's like the blind leading the blind.

 

[INXS]

Uhm....

I think people who has never gotton laid and is obviously a fvck up in life should be banned from advising others. That means you Luke.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=104381
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=101377

It's like the blind leading the blind.

hehe thanks I guess at this point..I'll stick with calling Wed till I hear otherwise!

 

[Centaurion]

Setting up a second date on the first date is as lame is it gets. It shows that you are desperate. ALWAYS have several plates spinning or at least make the chick believe you do. Desperation is a turn-off.

I usually give the chick a quick call the next day (1-2 mins) and tell her I had fun. I then put her on the backburner for a couple of days (3-4 days usually) while I'm busy spinning other plates, before calling her up and setting a new date.

Experience has shown that some chicks tend to get pissed when you don't give them that courtesy day after call (especially if you've porked her).

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Uhm....

I think people who has never gotton laid and is obviously a fvck up in life should be banned from advising others. That means you Luke.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=104381
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=101377

It's like the blind leading the blind.

Look, this is a free discussion forum - that means, if I write something on here, I'm not taking a position of saying this is the right way or wrong way, so I'm not giving any advice or leading anyone other than stating what is on my mind about a subject.

Even if something is 'wrong' but important issue, it could lead to a discussion incase anything was misssed anyway.

 

[GatorBait]

Uhm....

I think people who has never gotton laid and is obviously a fvck up in life should be banned from advising others. That means you Luke.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=104381
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=101377

It's like the blind leading the blind.

Harsh, but I agree. The problem with these types of forums at times is that some of them end up being a ton of inexperienced guys advising each other, which doesn't do much good. Guys with good experience should stick around and try to help those that need the help.

I'll address two things that keep coming up in this thread:

1) Don't call the next day to say "I had a great time" or whatever your line of choice is. Say you had a great time at the end of the date and leave it at that. Don't say you'll call again or give a specific day you'll call. Kiss her at the end of the date. Keep her excited and antsy waiting for your call. You want her to have butterflies in her stomach.

2) Don't set up a date at the end of a date. Call a few days after your date, set up the next date, and leave it at that. You want to be explicit about the date and time you will pick her up/meet her. You don't have to call again the day of the date to make sure she remembers. Believe me, if you are doing things right she will be thinking about your date all week and have it circled on her calendar.

You've got it. The #1 mistake guys make is moving too fast (calling too much, setting up too many dates, etc). You need to have the confidence to know that she won't just "forget" about you because you haven't called her every other day.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

You can kiss at the end of the date if it's in a crowded coffee shop or should a k-close be done somewhere private?

 

[INXS]

You can kiss at the end of the date if it's in a crowded coffee shop or should a k-close be done somewhere private?

I kissed my HOT HOT HOT date on the first date, just as we were walking outside. Before I did it though, we were having this conversation about risks, and she said, "I view risks as oppertunities." It made the perfect segway to me, looking deep in her eyes, moving my arms around her, pulling her to me and kissing, she quickly turned it into a french kiss...so long behold..I did something right.

Point being..I don't think it matters "where" aslong as the vibe and mood is right. It could be out in public or one on one, I think it is all about the mood. (Unless ofcourse you are with a woman who is totally insecure about kissing in public, and PDA (Public displays of affection) in general.)

 

[INXS]

Setting up a second date on the first date is as lame is it gets. It shows that you are desperate. ALWAYS have several plates spinning or at least make the chick believe you do. Desperation is a turn-off.

I usually give the chick a quick call the next day (1-2 mins) and tell her I had fun. I then put her on the backburner for a couple of days (3-4 days usually) while I'm busy spinning other plates, before calling her up and setting a new date.

Experience has shown that some chicks tend to get pissed when you don't give them that courtesy day after call (especially if you've porked her).

Now to get technical, would experience show a woman getting POed if you waited a few days to call, if you didn't have all out sex and if all you did was make out? Or same rule still apply? :nervous: