How long should I wait before moving on

[joe bloggs]

As recounted on an earlier thread, I met up with a women who I met through the personals column in a paper and had drinks last week. We talked a lot, and I thinked clicked (she said that she 'liked me') and we agreed to meet up again.

I sent her an email over the weekend inviting her to a play. She then sent me an email on Sunday night saying she would love to meet but she might have to work over the weekend. I then waited until yesterday and sent her an email suggesting that we go to a regatta (she is a sailing fan) in a fortnight's time instead. She hasn't replied yet.

How long should I wait for a reply before I write her off and move onto looking for someone else - possibly by posting another ad in the personals section? I don't want to waste my time on someone who doesn't care for me. However, I don't want to ruin what could be a relationship - or a the very least a friendship - by acting too rashly.

 

[COD]

PERSONALS AD.........do people still do this in 2008. Yo bro allow me to bring U up to speed, theres this thing called the internet and get this they have DATING SITES.

Anyways.........one-itis is being created quickly. So how about some solid advice.......

1) lose the personal ad in newspaper thingy quickly.........sheesh

2) THE PURPOSE OF THE FIRST EMAIL.........to get her digits.

3) GET HER FROM VIRTUAL TO LIVE-on the phone, then make a date.....DO NOT COMPLICATE THIS by saying what do I say, how do I.....just get that date.

4) and the best advice I can give ya..........SPIN MORE PLATES. All eggs into one basket means U are waiting on 1 chic. See thats the advantage over the paper. You get more than one chic responding to your ad or you can contact more than 1.

Now theres some basic foundations that MUST be inplace BEFORE you do anything. Obviously get your inner game in order, practice confidence by doing real live small talk in like malls to the employees (females) that get paid to talk to you. Do some research on how to write killer emails, posting pictures, etc.

Do keep in mind Net dating is one of the LOWEST forms of getting dates....should be a last resort. Gosh the only thing lower is ummmm POSTING OR ANSWERING ADS IN THE NEWS PAPER!!!!!!!!!

BUT, net dating is a good start for beginners, newbies and born again singles.

I would suggest in investing in a great (COVERS EVERYTHING-soups to nuts) type of book.

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Hope this helps........cause tons of advice on here.......most of it in conflict and non applicable in reality.

 

[COD]

I MUST APPLAUD YOU though.......U met a chic thru the newspaper and ALREADY had the date.

TEXT messages should replace your emails, ideally the phone call should work.

You are conveying too much interest.........if she does not respond....time to move on. Even if she does continue to date others to avoid 1-itis

 

[horaholic]

You shouldn't be waiting in the first place. You should be gaming other chicks whether she is flaking or not. This will make you more interesting to her, and keep yourself out of oneitis zone, as well as having multiple options. Play the jealousy card. it works. Find anther chick to go to the regatta with you, even if its your sister, mom, friend, ex, whatever. Then if you talk to her again, casually mention how good of a time you and girls name, (and say NO more about it) had at the regatta.

Anyway, move on. If she comes around, lucky her.

 

[joe bloggs]

Thanks for the advice. I think it is definitely time to move on. Note: When I say that I am using the personals section of a newspaper I mean the online personals, not the hard copy version.

I'll probably wait another week to repost my ad but I agree that I must write her off - although she was attractive in retrospect she was too much of an alpha female.