"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how long should call be with a girl.

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hey. i just had a quick question. i was on a skype call with the girl i like before. I'm Pretty sure i am friends zoned with her. but anyway we set up the called and we talk from 12am till just now 3:30am. lol. but after while i didn't really have much to talk about. so i was wondering.

how long should a convo be roughly. with a girl. i know i am still learning what to do. but i know for sure 3 hours is too long.

i hope this doesn't sound as stupid as it dose.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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20 minutes or less, really.

Your goal is to call and set up a physical meet. Then do the talking in person. All that "hey, how was your week?" stuff gets old real fast. Besides, even The Most Interesting Man in the World doesn't have that many good stories to tell.
 
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thanks guys. i know i should cut it shot. i will do next time. might talk for an hour cos we are friends. but i'm giving up on her anyway so.
 
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But tell the truth though you did enjoy that 3 hour convo a part of you was tired and wanted to stop and another part of you wanted to continue, lol. I know cos I've been there but from the things I've read on this site take the advices above. Well, if you really don't care about dating the girl then talk away but whatever happens always be the first to get off the phone. Even if she wants to let you go; find something to say to keep her on then be the one to let her go. Only one girl caught me on this, lol.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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