"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How long is too long to call after number acquisition?

AW1983

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Appx 3 weeks ago I got the number from a HB8-9 at a bar. She was with her friends and I told her they should all come dancing down the street with my friend and I, but she told me the friend's bfs weren't trying to leave. I laughed and said they must not be dancers and snagged the number from her anyway and left. The whole interaction wasn't longer than 30 seconds.

So I got busy with xmas and new years stuff and figured everyone else was too. Has the window of opportunity passed?

This is the hottest girl I've gotten digits from since parting ways with my ex so thus the post.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Die Hard

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If all of us would tell you the window of opportunity has passed, would you really refrain from contacting her?

Of course not... You got nothing to lose! So just contact her and find out!
 

AW1983

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Well I called before checking back in here. Convo went something like this:

Me: Hey it's AW, I met you at the club, lets get dinner Thur or Fri

Her: ummmm, who?

Me: I talked you and your friends about going dancing at X club but their bf's were not down

Her: Um, I don't remember

Me: Yeah I got busy with Xmas and New years but hey surprise yourself and go out with some guy you don't know

Her: I'll have to think about that

Me: (laughing because I know it's done) Alright later.

And then I hung up.

So yes, don't wait too long gentlemen.
 

Slickster

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It all depends on your gauge of her interest level.

In scenarios where you haven't built a lot of rapport then you have to act sooner rather than later.

A 30 second conversation doesn't give you much chance to build interest.
 

Griever114

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I generally hold open the door, although, i was yelled at for "takig away a womans rights and dignity by HOLDING the dooe for her."

Stuff like that made me want to slam it in her face.

That and i get up for pregnant women on the train. HOWEVER, i fell asleep once and a pregnant woman walked up to me and smacked me in the head. WTF. sorry i didnt knoe your preggo @#$ was rolling onto the train while im asleep from a 10 hour shift
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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