"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How long does it take?

Lordlaxative

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This is for all you master and senior Don Juans out there.... I want to know how long it takes to truely become a Don Juan? I know you'll always keep learning, but how long does it generally take (years, months, etc.)? The reason I ask is because I want to know how long it took you guys to get there compared to how long I've been at it. The thing I am having trouble with now is the "not caring" attitude, but I'm improving.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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undesputable

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ive been at this about 8 or 9 months....im still an amateur, but in these 8 monhts ive dated and fooled around with more girls than ever before.... just keep at it, do whatever to get practice.... go to the mall and try anything with any girl you see...so you can see for yourself what works and what doesnt....

good luck
 

InLawsHateMe

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Depends.... I've always had it even when I was just a kid. When I got married really early, marriage put hands over my eyes and ears, and mouth. After 12 years, I got divorced... found this site, met a great woman, who informed me (as well as all her friends ;) ) that I had the biggest c*ck she had ever seen in real life. Which did wonders for my ego, and confidence. I mean, I heard it when I was a teenager, but how much could you trust the opinions of teenage girls?

So when I realized what a pimp I was, I'd also realized that, it's one thing to find a man, it's another to find a man, who can truly make a woman turn to jello under the sheets.

Lets ot mistake that sex, is not the be all end all of a DJ... you can be a beast in bed, and she can still walk out on you. It takes skillz to keep em, it takes skillz to have a LTR, whether it be with one woman, or several women.
 

Austin Allegro

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I don't think you ever become a 100% DJ, you are always learning, but I reached more or less of a plateau about six months after finding the site.
 

DJ Alejandro

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ive been registered here since late 2001 and im still far from perfect. im not even a 'master' yet.

and you'll never reach the perfect don juan status. no one does. but we all strive to be the closest we can be.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So pimp its scary

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I say that it's very relative...

I used to be the embodiment of AFC before finding the site...

When I found this site I was in a state of silent desperation. While I was reading about what an AFC does relative to a DJ it was like reading a description of myself.

So, I started working of the 'inner game' by reading books, concentrating on posture, voice and eye contact... all for about 4-5 months. Then on that New Years I started practising my game, and I pulled 7 phone numbers that NIGHT.

I improved to a point where I would have considered myself "advanced" DJ, but at this point I would say more like intemediate. But, it's hard to rate your skills when you are in a relationship... although I have the girl like putty in my hands.
 
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