"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How long do you wait to next a girl if she doesn't respond to your calls

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I think that it was not necessary to attempt to reach her 3 times within 2 days. A simple phone call with a message would have been sufficient -- maybe you want to share what you left as a message if anything?

A follow-up phone call could be made a few days later (if you really like her) asking her if she got the previous message, or whatever (i.e. suggest some idea to meet again).

Personally, it's more fun if you are with a girl with a high-interest level to start with, so best to just next her now like everyone said especially as you tried three times and got nowhere. Waiting, guessing and speculating is not fun.

I have worked on my 'inner game' and better control myself where I can just leave one message, and somehow content myself not to worry if she'll call back or not, and just do ANYTHING else rather than worrying about her (i.e. ask another girl out, read a nice book, etc... whatever) -- just discipline your mind not to care -- all you need is to leave one message, take a deep breath and just say that it wont bother you if she calls back or not and get your mind off of it. Leave a follow up message if you wish to but that's it. See if you can just meet her in person or some other way you can connect with her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hmm, she's now added me to facebook. She hasn't messaged me yet though she has been checking out my profile and commenting on some things (which isn't too surprising, when she added me I checked her profile). It would be nice if this is a good sign, but I won't get my hopes up.
 

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Kal0051 said:
Hmm, she's now added me to facebook. She hasn't messaged me yet though she has been checking out my profile and commenting on some things (which isn't too surprising, when she added me I checked her profile). It would be nice if this is a good sign, but I won't get my hopes up.
hope for nothing.

Do not call her after a few days like luke said. let her initiate the u reciprocate ok
 

Kal0051

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we've talked a (well, texted) a bit since yesterday. Her interest lvl is definitely lower, not really sure how to raise it, but I'll try to do what I was doing when I first met her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yeah, right now I'm taking it light, mainly just texting her funny stuff and seeing her response. I'll probably go out again with her this weekend (well, maybe).
 

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verysuave said:
few weeks? no no , its her turn now.. she has to to call back. Trust me, she got your missed calls and or texts.

I have a story. Story A:
U know, there was this girl at work one time who had a crush on me. Cuz her friend told me.. This girl who had a crush on me, got my number somehow.
She initiated the text, bla bla bla. But she played alot of games with me

Okay, it finally got to the point where OKAy, im gona ask her to hang out after work. I did i ask her

me: "do she wants to go grab some burgers to eat later after work at IN n OUt?"
chick: "burgers this late? who eats burgers this late"
me: "I do"

I forgot why we ended up not going.. but anyway.

fast forward 3 weeks, I called her up on a monday

me: "hey whats up"
chick: "who is this? " (sh1t testing me as if she had deleted my number from her phone
me: "its verysuave, whats up?"
chick: "bla bla bal"
me: "are u free this saturday
chick: "well, i got to see my kids, bla bla"
me: "okay, let me by wednesday if you can or cannot"
(then she said some smart ass comment about planning ahead
me: "yeah, just planning ahead so i know whats happenign to this weekend"
chick" yeah, i know i know..
me: "okay got to run"
chick : okay bye

2 days later wednesday came by and no calls from her, as result? I didnt call her cause i really didnt give a hoot whether she calls or not

then 3 weeks later, she texts me and it went from there.

Story B:
I asked this chick out from work. SO i call her and made arrangements for next wednesday. She agreed on the phone.

Wednesday came (day of the date). I actually was not going to show up at this date because some crap happened that day and didn't even worry about this "DATE". (note that I didnt text her or call her that day because i got occupied with something else)

and wuddya know? she texts me later that night apologzing that she had school projects and stuff going on and tells me "maybe some other time"

then i tell her via text "okay you will have to make up for it =)"

about 1 - 2 weeks later, she texted me back and wants to hang out!

so there u go, they will text u back if they were really that interested EVEN if they were supper busy. They do rain checks =).

So, don't even call her,text EVER again from now on. Its her turn


This is about right-pretty much if my post didnt get through to you, his should-bottom line is dont sweat these chicks-its so many out there.
 
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