How Long Do You Wait To Get Married?

[robrulesyou]

Since I've been in a situation where I almost got married Im wondering how long do you guys recommend you take a relationship before tying the knot? and why?

I need to know because i just started dating a new girl and want to make sure I dont wait too long or do it too soon. and I've never really known what amount of time is best.

thanks

 

[zerocelcius]

Since I've been in a situation where I almost got married Im wondering how long do you guys recommend you take a relationship before tying the knot? and why?

I need to know because i just started dating a new girl and want to make sure I dont wait too long or do it too soon. and I've never really known what amount of time is best.

thanks

...Just started dating? And you are asking about getting Married!!!

YIKES.

Wait to long for what? Let me ask you this do you buy stuff by random? Do you buy the first car you see at the lot 'cause you don't want it to be sold before you buy it?

Getting Married is Forever...well it should be anyway. That needs some serious time to figure out. Listen girls will tell you it should be spontanious and magical... they don't pay allamony or child support! Yep magic just went out with last months installment.

Listen have fun feel things out, see how it goes. Never Rush a Good Thing.

And never get pushed into somthing you don't want. NO means NO!

 

[KillaCam]

If you've only just started dating this girl, marriage should be miles out of your mind. Don't get too ahead of yourself! Enjoy the ride, live through everything new relationships throw up, and have some darn fun dude, don't look to get tied down yet.

There is no set time. You can't go through life saying "I'm going to find a girl and marry her in a year!".

When the time comes, you will know. But dude, take it easy.

 

[Chosen1]

generally I go by age the older you are the less likely the girl is to cheat, or to divorce you. My rule of thumb is 25-32 no older no younger. To be honest though I don't believe in marriage if you do get married make sure you sample all the flavors first.

 

[sparky0000]

Well, age depends where you are at. In America/Britain/Canada/Australia I would say a guy needs to get married at a fairly young age unless he wants an older woman. In my little piece of heaven the girls want older guys (especially older guys with the right colored passport), so I am planning on holding out for another 20 years.

Don't be a robot to love. Love is mysterious. Let it flow.

 

[( . )( . )]

I'll wait as long as it takes until I as the man will benefit from marriage.

Until I gain more and risk losing less than I can now.

Unless some radical changes are made when does hell freeze over?

 

[The Truth]

I don't see any point to getting married. My girlfriend talks about it all the time and I do my best to change the subject.

I can cope with being faithful and committed, I have no desire to cheat on my girlfriend and I will always be there for her, but getting married means giving up your independence and that's something I'm not willing to do.

Right now I can do what I feel like doing, pursue ambitions and hobbies, watch tv or listen to music I like, spend time with friends, relax or sleep or go away somewhere, and still have plenty of quality time with my girlfriend. That's how I like it!

Marriage takes away that independence and gives you an obligation to put your wife before everything else. No way!! As much as I love my girlfriend right now, that could change under that kind of pressure!

But above all, WHY? For once I agree with Titman. What is there to actually gain from marriage? It doesn't benefit me at all from what I can see.

 

[robrulesyou]

Thanks for your answers/comments. Some of you think I shouldnt even think about it, but TheTruth, you probably know what I mean especialy with this:

My girlfriend talks about it all the time and I do my best to change the subject.

Last relationship i was in the girl was nearly begging me to get married so I broke up with her.

Now I know Im just starting to date again but I wanted to know ahead of time what a good amount of time is. I guess it is different for some, but it would be nice if there was like a standard recomendation.

(.)(.) - I agree there may not seem to be much out of marriage. But for me I want to have kids before I turn 30, just to pass on my seeds and I would want a wife not a gf to be my kids mom. I guess to me its a matter of having her at home to take care of the kids/house. if she was just a gf she would say well we arent married so she would go out to work etc. I think marriage would hold her in the house.

 

[Kurt the KJ]

When you're ready, you'll both know it.