How long do you wait for a girl to be comfortable with sex?

[squirrels]

I know some of the n00bs will be like, "Man that's so AFC!! You should be able to f**k her on the first night or you're just a loser!" But the truth is, the BETTER women will wait a while before they "put out", so to speak. Not for any reason besides that they just don't want to be "sluts" and want to at least date you a few times to make sure you're an OK guy. Women want it as bad as men, but they don't throw it around as easily.

I'm seeing this girl on and off, for example. Each time I see her, I've gotten a little further, but it's hard to tell if she's just taking it slow/getting comfortable because she doesn't want to slut herself out or if she's "making me wait." If I have to be patient that's fine, it's really no sweat off my back, but I don't want her trying to leverage me into commitment with sex as a bargaining tool.

So how long do you wait before you decide, "She's not gonna give it up, I may as well back out."? Lots of people follow the classic "three-date" rule. What do you expect? First date? Third date? Are you willing to stretch it if it appears that it's becoming more intimate with every meeting? Where do you draw the line?

 

[Jager_Boy]

I use the one date rule. If I dont hit it the first night, Ill call them a few times, and if the next time I dont hit it...peace out....

 

[Dillinger]

If you fvck on the first date that's a big red flag. I say the longest I would wait would be two months. The longest I've ever waited was one month, because she was a virgin.

I you really like and respect a woman then you will wait.


Plus if you fvck a girl fast 9/10 you weren't the first to fvck on the first date.

 

[Jager_Boy]

Originally posted by Dillinger



Plus if you fvck a girl fast 9/10 you weren't the first to fvck on the first date.

Point?

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

wow, you guys are unbelievable. You think that sex is the only important thing. If you're in a serious relationship, and you really truly love a girl, then waiting shouldn't be a problem. You think with your d!cks too much and therefore lose respect for other human beings. I know a couple who waited until marriage, and they were dating/engaged for almost 2 years before they had sex, and ya know what? My friend told me that its amazing.

Thanks sqirrels for actually having respect for a woman, and thank you too Dillinger. its NOT afc to actually care about a woman and wait until she's ready. its being a man and thinking of someone else other than your penis.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
I know a couple who waited until marriage, and they were dating/engaged for almost 2 years before they had sex, and ya know what? My friend told me that its amazing.

If she's waiting because she wants to make sure she's comfortable with me, that's fine. It's my responsibility to see to it that she's comfortable and finds it enjoyable.

If she's waiting because she believes that sex without marriage will be "cheaper" and doesn't enjoy sex outside of marriage, that's fine too, but I, unfortunately, have come to not tie the two so closely together. I believe sex with marriage is MORE special, but I don't believe in waiting. I will be out of that one eventually.

If she's waiting because she's withholding sex pending commitment, then I have no tolerance for that. In that case, she is trying to BUY my commitment and affection with sex and I have no time for people who treat sex as a commodity. "Rules Girls" fall under this category...they're withholding sex not because they don't want to, but because they're playing some stupid game and trying to gain leverage.

I usually subscribe to the three-date rule myself. I'll go for it on the first date if it seems like she's down. If I'm "making progress", meaning getting a little further with each date, I'll hang in there. If I seem like I'm dead-in-the-water after three dates, then I'll cut her off.

 

[Jager_Boy]

Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
wow, you guys are unbelievable. You think that sex is the only important thing. If you're in a serious relationship, and you really truly love a girl, then waiting shouldn't be a problem. You think with your d!cks too much and therefore lose respect for other human beings. I know a couple who waited until marriage, and they were dating/engaged for almost 2 years before they had sex, and ya know what? My friend told me that its amazing.

Thanks sqirrels for actually having respect for a woman, and thank you too Dillinger. its NOT afc to actually care about a woman and wait until she's ready. its being a man and thinking of someone else other than your penis.

Point?

 

[catch]

point....?

i dont like to make a point, but,
i dont see the point, in making a point,where theres no point...

 

[catch]

anyway

and i think you should wait for the sex if you want to make a long term effort with a girl, makes her appreciate you more..

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by Jager_Boy
Point?

Why don't you try actually posting something?

 

[Jager_Boy]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
Why don't you try actually posting something?

I think its rediculous what LuvMyArmyMan posted. If I dont want to be in a relationship, whats wrong with just thinking with my penis?

 

[dietzcoi]

Nothing is wrong with it, you just have to realise that there is no "anti-chump filter" on this site.

DIetzcoi