“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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How long did it take you to recover from a bad relationship?

TonyBaloney

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Just curious how long it took you guys, and how you went about it? Do you still hold negative thoughts about it - how long did it last/how long ago.

I'm struggling still after nearly 5 months out of a on/off 3.5 year relationship.

Thanks in advance,

Tony
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jariel

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It took me around a year to get back to being my best. I got over her pretty quickly, but I'd got complacent while I was with her and found it very difficult getting back in the field and meeting new women.

I also found that it took a while to "find myself" again. But the best things I ever did was to make a huge effort to improve myself and to keep pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I went on quite a few dates and asked women for their numbers. I got rejected, even had a couple of panic attacks, but gradually I started developing a resistance to it and became a natural.

Just keep moving forward mate and don't look back.
 

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5 months for a 3.5 yr relationship.

Best thing to do is work on yourself, I know this probably seems like the advice you will find everywhere else BUT it is because it really works.

1-. work on yourself (gym, hobbies, intellectual, etc)
2-. get social (friends, family and women)
3-. everything else falls in place

I wouldn't even try to get with women until you are actually doing well. In my case I started to develop oneintis for a girl (replace one with another) but stopped myself when I saw my inner AFC creeping.

Best of luck!
 

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7 years of loving followed by a few months of ****ing. then.. about 8 months to a year to get over her.

now i see her as a real sticking point not to end up like that again.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TonyBaloney said:
Just curious how long it took you guys, and how you went about it? Do you still hold negative thoughts about it - how long did it last/how long ago. I'm struggling still after nearly 5 months out of a on/off 3.5 year relationship. Thanks in advance, Tony
You're almost there.

(November 2010 - April 2011) Relationship with Girl A who had BPD (i.e. heartbreak, oneitis).
(May 2011 - June 2011) Pure heartbreak and depression (didn't take any medication though and even quit smoking weed, and got in shape).
(July 2011 - October 2011) Good relationship (Girl B), but missed Girl A.
(October 2011 - January 2012) - Great relationship (Girl C), but still missed Girl A.
(January 2012 - February 2012) - After 2 months with Girl C and 9 months after my broken heart, Girl C officially replaced Girl A in my mind. It happened gradually and one day I just realized my thoughts were with the new one (and now I would NEVER go back!)

"Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers."
-Garth Brooks
 
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