how long before you text them? does it matter

[ne0phyte]

hey guys, i met a couple of girls during an orientation event my school held for the new class. i got a few numbers from girls that said they'd be down to go out to the bars with us after the event. (it's pretty easy pick up - talk fluff, - hey we're gonna hit a bar later tonight, you should come with us, what's your #).

but anyway, i got 2 girls numbers, sent a text to them both, and i get no reply at all. am i done here (are they just girls with low interest)? or how should i play this?

 

[luckster]

hey guys, i met a couple of girls during an orientation event my school held for the new class. i got a few numbers from girls that said they'd be down to go out to the bars with us after the event. (it's pretty easy pick up - talk fluff, - hey we're gonna hit a bar later tonight, you should come with us, what's your #).

but anyway, i got 2 girls numbers, sent a text to them both, and i get no reply at all. am i done here (are they just girls with low interest)? or how should i play this?

Next time you're going out, call em up and tell them to join you at the bar you are going to. Have some fun banter and hang up. If they don't pick up or reply somehow, that's the end of that.

And don't let "next time" be in like 2 weeks, otherwise they will most likely forget about you.

 

[ne0phyte]

alright, so basically just give it one more shot haha

 

[Mr Wright]

You have to build a solid reason to meet up when you get the number...or create enough attraction to get her to ask for your number.

When i get a girls number i usually text her within the hour(or the same night at a club) using a bit of callback humour just to let her know who i am. I keep all texts flirty but the aim simple, to meet up ASAP. There's no point gaming a girl for like 5 minutes then asking for her number because there's no real reason why she should respond, she doesnt know you, you're just some guy. This is why i get girls taking my number or when they slyly ask for my name to facebook me. Its easier to game them then because the balls in your court. I'd say you need a solid interaction and a reason for a future meet up before you go for the number. Eg the other day this girl and I talked about going to the zoo and she said she loved monkeys. So when i left i texted her something about her being a cheeky monkey and the zoo. Done.

 

[luckster]

alright, so basically just give it one more shot haha

Yup. No harm in it. Girls will give out numbers because they don't want to seem rude. After 2 attempts, I think you're just wasting your time.

But one thing I would say is, don't go into the night with "man I hope these girls show up." Grab a few friends and go out as though you didn't even invite them, meet people, dance, have fun.

 

[ne0phyte]

Yup. No harm in it. Girls will give out numbers because they don't want to seem rude. After 2 attempts, I think you're just wasting your time.

But one thing I would say is, don't go into the night with "man I hope these girls show up." Grab a few friends and go out as though you didn't even invite them, meet people, dance, have fun.

yeah that's what i do. i was just surprised a bit because these girls seemed very interested in me. when i was on my way out, they came up to say goodbye even tho it was a huge event. one more try it is

 

[FairShake]

I agree that texting lacks balls. Don't text until you have the kind of relationship that texting means you're lazy and not lacking balls. Lazy comes and goes but ball-less is never forgotten.

You can call whenever you damn well please. Remember "be a man." Be a man and call when you feel like it (a caveat: as long as it isn't the day of). If you have the time a next day call is fine. They can lose interest by NOT seeing you as well as seeing too much of you after all.

 

[bigneil]

Text the next day or the day after that. It's not like with phones where you wait 3 days. I disagree that texting is weaker than calling. If they really like you they will ask you to call them so they can "hear your voice".

More important is what you text them.

 

[giantmecharobotnerd]

just because a guy is a man, has balls, calls when he feels like it does not mean she will pick up or return his calls

 

[thevilittletroll]

You have to build a solid reason to meet up when you get the number...or create enough attraction to get her to ask for your number.

When i get a girls number i usually text her within the hour(or the same night at a club) using a bit of callback humour just to let her know who i am. I keep all texts flirty but the aim simple, to meet up ASAP. There's no point gaming a girl for like 5 minutes then asking for her number because there's no real reason why she should respond, she doesnt know you, you're just some guy. This is why i get girls taking my number or when they slyly ask for my name to facebook me. Its easier to game them then because the balls in your court. I'd say you need a solid interaction and a reason for a future meet up before you go for the number. Eg the other day this girl and I talked about going to the zoo and she said she loved monkeys. So when i left i texted her something about her being a cheeky monkey and the zoo. Done.

^^^This is killer advice, couldnt have said it better myself. Also you didnt build any attraction either, she doesnt have any reason to call you or text you back. once you have built some attraction and have an event you told her about then the phone # becomes solid, not just we should hang out sometime. as far as future texts to these girls all you can really do is let them know something awesome that you are already doing, like "i'm at x bar, this place is insane!" dont invite them or ask them a question that requires a response.