How is important is AGE in the dating world?

[huskybear]

This thread is depressing....lets end it.

...posted twice accidently

 

[huskybear]

This thread is depressing..

I started this depressing thread and I want to end it.

Since reading these posts--I have been dumped by a girl I cared for a lot last week who found someone younger, stable and more richer. IM happy for her. Im sure she is exstatic and they have wonderful sex every night and IM jealous as and it hurts like hell. But I am just a memory to her. Then last year i see my exgirlfriend kissing another man who I was still in love with. I CANT LET GO. ITS SO DAMN HARD. Is it a control thing? Do I have control issues? HOW DOES A GUY LET GO AFTER A BREAKUP? Its sad that a person can just...coldly end it with you. No rhyme or reason. Then give her love to someone else. Then I hear the words from my friends and family...MOVE ON. Moving on....is a cold way of saying get a life. Meet another girl. Whats the point of meeting another girl??? I may get dumped again or I may dump her and hurt her. Whats the point to all this--we all die anyway.

Maybe ted bundy had the answers to all females. He probably rationalized women are wh*res. They are not to be trusted. He probably thought women lie worse than men. He knew women can leave you anytime they see fit and meet another man in a heartbeat and there is nothing you can do about it. So Bundy took the high road and probably DIDNT CARE EITHER. IN essence, 100 years from now none of this is going to matter----ok, this is sounding psycho so I will stop my rant.

To sum up, I have lost several potential girlfriends these last few years who I could have easily dated or married but they just got up and left---even when I was spinning plates! It has definitely scarred me. Many called me a player. The problem is...what woman can I trust in the future? This is why I date many and not one girl. What if i meet another great girl next month and that ends? I get tired of moving on! I dont like hurting women either. I have been spinning so many plates all these years. I get tired of spinning plates. I want to settle down and get married. I dont want to be the leader anymore. I get tired of being an alpha male. Sometimes I want someone to tell me what to do! I should join the army--I would love to have a drill sergeant bark orders at me. I want someone to tell me when I can tie my shoe laces and when I can go to the bathroom. I wish women would tell me what to do. I want to be the follower since I have been the leader for 40+ years of my life and im sick of it. I have been doing that my whole life.

 

[KontrollerX]

Huskybear instead of embracing the Ted Bundy view of women why not embrace the Tom Leykis view and that is...

Don't get into a relationship, don't get married.

Just pump em and dump em or create a bull pen where you call a fvck buddy up when you need your sexual needs fulfilled and if she is busy that day you just call up another one.

This is kind of a deviation of Rollo's plate theory but it may be exactly what you need.

 

[Omen]

Huskybear instead of embracing the Ted Bundy view of women why not embrace the Tom Leykis view and that is...

Don't get into a relationship, don't get married.

Just pump em and dump em or create a bull pen where you call a fvck buddy up when you need your sexual needs fulfilled and if she is busy that day you just call up another one.

This is kind of a deviation of Rollo's plate theory but it may be exactly what you need.

I saw a shirt yesterday on a guy and it had a screw, nut, and bolt on the front and on the back it said...

We Screw
We Nut
We Bolt
:crackup:

 

[KontrollerX]

LMAO, thats great Omen. :crackup:

T-shirt hell.com has a lot of great stuff similar to that.

One time on the Tom Leykis show Tom started talking about Myspace and how people are only on it as a venue for hooking up and he started laughing and said he saw a shirt that said "From Myspace to my place". :crackup:

 

[Warrior74]

I started this depressing thread and I want to end it.

Since reading these posts--I have been dumped by a girl I cared for a lot last week who found someone younger, stable and more richer. IM happy for her. Im sure she is exstatic and they have wonderful sex every night and IM jealous as and it hurts like hell. But I am just a memory to her. Then last year i see my exgirlfriend kissing another man who I was still in love with. I CANT LET GO. ITS SO DAMN HARD. Is it a control thing? Do I have control issues? HOW DOES A GUY LET GO AFTER A BREAKUP? Its sad that a person can just...coldly end it with you. No rhyme or reason. Then give her love to someone else. Then I hear the words from my friends and family...MOVE ON. Moving on....is a cold way of saying get a life. Meet another girl. Whats the point of meeting another girl??? I may get dumped again or I may dump her and hurt her. Whats the point to all this--we all die anyway.

Maybe ted bundy had the answers to all females. He probably rationalized women are wh*res. They are not to be trusted. He probably thought women lie worse than men. He knew women can leave you anytime they see fit and meet another man in a heartbeat and there is nothing you can do about it. So Bundy took the high road and probably DIDNT CARE EITHER. IN essence, 100 years from now none of this is going to matter----ok, this is sounding psycho so I will stop my rant.

To sum up, I have lost several potential girlfriends these last few years who I could have easily dated or married but they just got up and left---even when I was spinning plates! It has definitely scarred me. Many called me a player. The problem is...what woman can I trust in the future? This is why I date many and not one girl. What if i meet another great girl next month and that ends? I get tired of moving on! I dont like hurting women either. I have been spinning so many plates all these years. I get tired of spinning plates. I want to settle down and get married. I dont want to be the leader anymore. I get tired of being an alpha male. Sometimes I want someone to tell me what to do! I should join the army--I would love to have a drill sergeant bark orders at me. I want someone to tell me when I can tie my shoe laces and when I can go to the bathroom. I wish women would tell me what to do. I want to be the follower since I have been the leader for 40+ years of my life and im sick of it. I have been doing that my whole life.

you have got to be kidding me. What sort of whiney self indulgent crap is that? If you want boss get a fat wife! Stop acting like some mopey teen emo fag. christ man. that's pathetic. Man the **** up, get some prozac, watch american beauty a million times or do something. take charge of your life. Tired of being the leader? Are you fraking kidding me? I don't believe you ever where a leader talking like this.

Go to church and find you a nice fat wife, but don't come back here with that whining crap. FFS your embarassing yourself man.

 

[iqqi]

This now needs another whole thread. Huskybear, start a new thread. This one is about age. Thanks!

 

[Latinoman]

I reposted my post in STR8UP's thread. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1404248 (see posts 48 and 49).

 

[Latinoman]

SEE STR8UP's thread.

 

[huskybear]

warrior74 hehheahea.....yea im tired of "manning the f*ck the up." I've been a teacher, a drill instructor, a sales manager, a hotel manager, a bartender, and a limo driver. I BURNED OUT ON BEING A BABYSITTER! Im tired of babysitting women? does anyone agree with me? I get tired of telling people and women what to do. I want someone else to take the chains. I want to sit back and relax and enjoy it. I want someone to massage my back and cook me dinner and when to tell me to go to bed and when to do yardwork.

I've been doing "leadership" work for frikken + 40 years and im sick of it. I want a girl to rub my feet at home and yell at me when Im bad. I kind of get turned on chicks who are bossy towards me.

When I was 25 I had a girlfriend who was bossy as hell. She always told me to come to bed NOW! and turn off the damn tv!...and I went to bed with her. Its was comforting to know she loved me and expected me to be with her. I always knew she would never leave. Its strange. She wanted me by her side 24/7 and i actually enjoyed it. We broke up cause I had to move to florida and she didnt want to. I had to finish my college education. I wish after all these years i would have stayed with her.

 

[Warrior74]

warrior74 hehheahea.....yea im tired of "manning the f*ck the up." I've been a teacher, a drill instructor, a sales manager, a hotel manager, a bartender, and a limo driver. I BURNED OUT ON BEING A BABYSITTER! Im tired of babysitting women? does anyone agree with me? I get tired of telling people and women what to do. I want someone else to take the chains. I want to sit back and relax and enjoy it. I want someone to massage my back and cook me dinner and when to tell me to go to bed and when to do yardwork.

I've been doing "leadership" work for frikken + 40 years and im sick of it. I want a girl to rub my feet at home and yell at me when Im bad. I kind of get turned on chicks who are bossy towards me.

When I was 25 I had a girlfriend who was bossy as hell. She always told me to come to bed NOW! and turn off the damn tv!...and I went to bed with her. Its was comforting to know she loved me and expected me to be with her. I always knew she would never leave. Its strange. She wanted me by her side 24/7 and i actually enjoyed it. We broke up cause I had to move to florida and she didnt want to. I had to finish my college education. I wish after all these years i would have stayed with her.

I guess your the opposite of a lot of guys here. Well find you a nice girl and settle down. Retire from the game.

 

[MrLuvr]

I am 40 yr old guy(I look young--say around 28 and I act ten years younger)..but thats not what concerns me. Lately I have been feeling insecure about my age.

Nowadays, women dont want me as much. I am starting to the hear the comments "your too old for me" or "eww, your like 40?" Or "Oh my god!! You are 40??? You look like your 28 years old!" I hear these comments especially from women in their late 20's or early 30's. Its depressing when you are rejected because of your age AND NOT your looks. It s*cks because my sex drive is as high now as it was in my early 20's but back then I had a different girl every weekend to take care of my needs. Now I don't have jacksh*t.

Im middle-aged man trapped in a 28 yr old body. I dislike growing old but I try to look at it positively. .

The problem is not that you are a 40 yr old man. The problem is that you are a 40 yr old LOSER! You don't have your life together. You don't seem to have a proper career or anything to show for yourself in life. From your posts it seems that you have been jumping from one odd job to another. You are not established. THAT is your problem. You are 40 year olds, you look 28, but you ACT 20! You sound emotionally immature and quite frankly, pathetic.

The women are not rejecting you because you are 40. They are rejecting you because they are not attracted to you. They are using your age as an excuse to get rid of you. There is no way that a 40 year old man is TOO OLD for your target age range which seems to be women in their late 20s and early 30s. With their best years behind them, these women are DESPERATE to hook a man and settle down. And you are striking out with them? First fix your life.. then worry about the women.

 

[huskybear]

warrior thanks again for really listening....im still going to chicago.

But i just want to retire from "the game" and settle down with a nice girl. Beautiful women are nice to look at--but have terrible reliability and i have little patience with them.

They are like driving BMWs and mercedes..with mediocre reliability.

I would take a honda or crown vic anyday.

Ok im bored of this thread lets end it.

 

[hithard]

The problem is not that you are a 40 yr old man. The problem is that you are a 40 yr old LOSER! You don't have your life together. You don't seem to have a proper career or anything to show for yourself in life. From your posts it seems that you have been jumping from one odd job to another. You are not established. THAT is your problem. You are 40 year olds, you look 28, but you ACT 20! You sound emotionally immature and quite frankly, pathetic.

The women are not rejecting you because you are 40. They are rejecting you because they are not attracted to you. They are using your age as an excuse to get rid of you. There is no way that a 40 year old man is TOO OLD for your target age range which seems to be women in their late 20s and early 30s. With their best years behind them, these women are DESPERATE to hook a man and settle down. And you are striking out with them? First fix your life.. then worry about the women.

This sums it up as far as I am concerned.

Get your $hit together. At the moment you are too focused on one area of your life and letting the rest go to the wall.
You need to be thinking of the all round package in all areas of your life.

 

[jophil28]

I've been a teacher, a drill instructor, a sales manager, a hotel manager, a bartender, and a limo driver. I BURNED OUT ON BEING A BABYSITTER!

Perhaps there is a clue to your dilemma in this list of "careers" .
I may be wrong but it looks to me as if ,for the most part, you were a man who took care of OTHER peoples needs . Maybe that put them ABOVE you and you acted in a "serving" role.? If this is even partly true, did you act in that same role in your recent relationships with women .
Are you the "people pleasing" type of guy who thinks that he is leading, BUT is really supplicating by meeting women's needs ahead of your own? The list above suggest that you have acted in a kind of adult "nanny" capacity ,

Maybre a little introspection is in order here .

IM just thinking out loud.

 

[Latinoman]

Sadly...I have to agree. I think Husky did a great job as a "PUA" when he was in his 20s and lost focus on self-improvement. That's why I said early that he is a perfect example for youngsters to learn from on what to avoid.

Now...can he get his sh_it together? At 40...he might want to at least get some DIRECTION in his life. If he is in the shape of a 20 something man...he might have a few years to get his sh_it back together. But he cannot waste too much time.

 

[huskybear]

bad advice on tom leykis...

Tom Leykis is an idiot. It's entertainment...don't believe everything you hear on the radio. If leykis could make millions by telling men to shower women with gifts, he'd be saying that. It's all about the entertainment value and being a shock jock and getting paid. Listening to him will NOT get you laid.

I would rather listen to a Ph.D love doctor who talks about fulfilling relationships and keeping a relationship together.

 

[KontrollerX]

Tom Leykis is an idiot. It's entertainment...don't believe everything you hear on the radio. If leykis could make millions by telling men to shower women with gifts, he'd be saying that. It's all about the entertainment value and being a shock jock and getting paid. Listening to him will NOT get you laid

Tom is most certainly not an idiot.

He always stresses the importance of having game.

In your opening post you mentioned you got by solely on your good looks when you were younger and said you had no game and still have no game.

Tom's advice works only for those who have game.

He's not really even a shock jock as he simply tells it like it is and people get offended while Howard Stern is a shock jock and goes out of his way and looks for things to say to shock people.

Anyway though if you use this site and other resources to learn game you may look at Tom's show in a new light.

"I would rather listen to a Ph.D love doctor who talks about fulfilling relationships and keeping a relationship together"

You don't even have to do that if you want to learn how to do this.

Just read Rollo Tomassi's post history here to learn how as well as plenty of Latinoman and Interceptor posts.

If you really want to listen to a love doctor in particular though I think Dr. Drew still has a radio show out there.

 

[huskybear]

Game?

Ok, since Im an open-minded guy--Im willing to listen to you.
However, instead of sifting through Rollo's or latinomans posts (and I'm sure they are very good posts)...just send me some of their EXCELLENT "having game" posts.

I want to learn from the masters about what "having game" really is because I see some guys out there with no game who are successful in relationships.

 

[guru1000]

warrior74 hehheahea.....yea im tired of "manning the f*ck the up." I've been a teacher, a drill instructor, a sales manager, a hotel manager, a bartender, and a limo driver. I BURNED OUT ON BEING A BABYSITTER! Im tired of babysitting women? does anyone agree with me? I get tired of telling people and women what to do. I want someone else to take the chains. I want to sit back and relax and enjoy it. I want someone to massage my back and cook me dinner and when to tell me to go to bed and when to do yardwork.

I've been doing "leadership" work for frikken + 40 years and im sick of it. I want a girl to rub my feet at home and yell at me when Im bad. I kind of get turned on chicks who are bossy towards me.

When I was 25 I had a girlfriend who was bossy as hell. She always told me to come to bed NOW! and turn off the damn tv!...and I went to bed with her. Its was comforting to know she loved me and expected me to be with her. I always knew she would never leave. Its strange. She wanted me by her side 24/7 and i actually enjoyed it. We broke up cause I had to move to florida and she didnt want to. I had to finish my college education. I wish after all these years i would have stayed with her.

I hear you.

Hey, not everybody can be a cowboy. Many INDIANS are needed to make the world function.

It is OK if you choose not to be the leader. Just remember with every CHOICE, there is a CONSEQUENCE.

Hell, it much easier to be a SHEEP and follow rules. But certainly guys like Bill Gates and Warren Buffet didn't get to the top percentile of attaining wealth by becoming employees.

Same analogy with women. If you want to be a GIANT amongst women, you must LEAD and DIRECT.

You CHOOSE.