"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How important is your job to a women?

Couto

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I'm curious to know how important your job is when telling a women and I mean more the type of job you have. For example I plan on being a nurse however that is seen as more of a feminine line of work so I'm slightly concerned they won't regard me as a male as much. I somewhat plan on studying, getting money then going to America to study another year for a better paying nursing job and I'm well aware this shows me as being more ambitious but I'm still curious to your insight.

This site is pretty incredible and I do plan on posting here more often once I gain more knowledge.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why should you care what they think about your job?

I almost never tell women my real job; I am an architect, and I tell them I fix disposable cameras or a bull breeder or some other ridiculous job.

Drop the "what they think.." mindset and just live your life!
 

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Just be honest with a girl. It's not really that important but its obvious that a girl is definately going to like you more if you have a nice job. It shows that your a hard worker and ambitiouos.
 

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Thanks for your input, in all honestly I think I'm just over thinking the whole matter.
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Just be honest with a girl. It's not really that important but its obvious that a girl is definately going to like you more if you have a nice job. It shows that your a hard worker and ambitiouos.
that works both ways. b!tches lie, about EVERYTHING.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Couto said:
For example I plan on being a nurse however that is seen as more of a feminine line of work so I'm slightly concerned they won't regard me as a male as much.
Dude, it's not the 1950s. Nobody judges your "manliness" on what kind of job you have. Unemployed construction workers (of which I used to be) are NOT more manly that well-employed nurses (of which I AM!). Chicks will cream over you being a nurse. A nursing career means you're smart, middle to upper-middle class, sensitive, with excellent people skills. All very cream worthy.

A lot of women dig the hell out of sensitive guys who help others out despite what people on here say. As a nurse you have this built in reaction when you tell them that. It gets you at least 10 more minutes of attention guaranteed.
 

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think of it this way: 90%+ of the people u will be around during your studies and work are going to be girls:) and plenty of them young and cute:) This isn't limited to nurses either, the whole hospital staff is probably 80-90% female.

nursing school must be the holy grail of sarging places ~_~
 

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Depends on her own values.

Some women value status, so a job as a cleaner wouldn't get much dates (or not at least of high earning women).

If she turns you down for your job, there are more women out there.
 

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My Grandmother was practically a saint. But even she would say "A woman won't settle for a man with no job. It's not because she's greedy. It's what she must do to have a family."

It's a cold world. Women have to do a lot for a dollar. I believe a man is supposed to have a stay at home wife. That means finding a woman he loves and paying all her expenses. Sad but true.

But marriage laws have changed the dynamics. It should be that he can boot her out if she's not sweet and/or faithful.

So my theory is: don't get married. Stay together with separate checking accounts and save on your own (the man helping her mostly). Then both are always independent and neither is left high and dry.
 

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How you feel about your job status is way more important than what your job status actually is.

An unemployed man who feels great about himself will do better than a man with a great job who doesn't like himself.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ilikecharlene said:
Depends on her own values.

Some women value status, so a job as a cleaner wouldn't get much dates (or not at least of high earning women).

If she turns you down for your job, there are more women out there.
Aye, my cousin was hitting it off well with a chick one time only to have her turn him down when she found out that he's a plumber. It didn't faze him much though.
 

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Zerro said:
Aye, my cousin was hitting it off well with a chick one time only to have her turn him down when she found out that he's a plumber. It didn't faze him much though.
I dont believe that for a second. Whats more likely is that she used that as an EXCUSE for turning him down.
 

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It definitely changes as you get older (I'm 22 and I don't think girls really care at this age.) But when you're in your 30's, chicks don't want to date a Burger King cashier.

Like a previous poster said.. Who gives a sh1t though. Do what you want. If they can't handle that, it's their own fault. I don't care what the girl who I date does for work, so she shouldn't care what I do either. As long as one of us isn't constantly mooching off the other.
 

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let me put it this way.

don't think of it as a problem but as a screener. if a woman is going to leave you because you went to college and became a nurse, seriously, seriously, that's the screening process at work my friend. NEXT!

I gamble for a living basically. I"ve had more than one woman not jive with that.. f'em. who the fvck cares. I am what i am, and I do what i love doing. you aren't going to jive with everyone
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Great point. I'm sure there are some men out there that go into the fields that they think will get them lots of attractive women. But they end up miserable because they aren't passionate about it.

I will never work at something I hate just to impress women.

Notwithstanding, back the OP, I wouldn't give this a second thought. I'm sure there are plenty of women that would be quite attracted to a male nurse. First, you are "safe" because your job is to help people. Second, it's a steady decent paying career. Third, it shows you can deal with people and work under pressure.

backbreaker said:
let me put it this way.

don't think of it as a problem but as a screener. if a woman is going to leave you because you went to college and became a nurse, seriously, seriously, that's the screening process at work my friend. NEXT!

I gamble for a living basically. I"ve had more than one woman not jive with that.. f'em. who the fvck cares. I am what i am, and I do what i love doing. you aren't going to jive with everyone
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