"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How important is weight?

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Ben MacDui said:
I think that being fit and healthy is something we should all do for our own sake whether it helps us become attractive or not. There is no point thinking about about pulling women if you are so overweight and unhealthy that you constantly feel tired and ill.

However, there is an issue with advising people to get super-athletic and muscular just in order to attract women. The idea of Game as a way of generating attraction is (at least if you listen to people like David DeAngelo, Wayne Elise etc.) something that people from any background or size or shape can do, and be effective at. If we start saying to people "Get really muscular and then you can get women" etc. we go back to the whole idea that all a man has to do is to be super fit and good looking to meet women - which begins to defeat the point of learning Game.
sounds good to me
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The thing is:
You're not confident about your body right now. You think your body isn't too great. Which makes you very uneasy. Which destroys your confidence. Which in turn plays a part in you not getting laid.

Only way to solve it is to do something about it, don't you think?
Instead of making up one excuse after another.

On your way to self-improvement, your body is the ONLY thing where you will see guaranteed progress. Very quickly. Sounds like a good start to me.
 

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wolf116 said:
If you want to become muscular so women approach you, you will need to do lots of study and hard work. It will take years.
Best piece of advice I've read in a long time, bang on the truth.

MM
 

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Lack of self confidence may only be the tip of the iceberg,I am concerned I may be asexual,or,I look at things in terms of love too much. Like my mindset is wrong. I have seen professional help,not sure if that worked.
 

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Get you testosterone levels checked by a doctor.

Seriously your first step is to join a hardcore gym and become more masculine.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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in my experience, girls in general dont want a guy who's overly fat, skinny OR muscular. they want it somewhere in the middle.

it probably sounds overconfident, but i dont care. every girl that has ever seen me topless (not that there has been a huge amount of them. probably 6 or so) has passed a comment at some point along the lines of "look at that guy! he's really muscular/skinny/whatever, it looks gross. not like you, you're perfect!" .

im not bulging with muscle, or skinny, but i am slim and well toned from top to bottom. in particular ive noticed that girls love guys with strong looking arms and core muscles. I've lost count of the number of times a chick has exclaimed at my back, which is apparently unusually muscular. my last ex used to hide my tshirt from me in the mornings so she could see me run around topless.

as a sort of a guide, i asked three girls if they thought christiano ronaldo (a footballer, for anyone who doesnt know) looked good topless. one said 'yes' straight up, and two said "ugh, no", with one of those saying "that looks kind of weird."
 

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I'd like to have the body brad pitt has in fight club...I'll never get it due to my addiction to racquetball.

With the above said, I am happy playing racquetball and not happy being a tool
 

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I'd say Ronnie Coleman in 2005 Mr Olympia or Kevin Levrone in the 1999 British Grand Prix is about perfect. Anything smaller just looks weedy.

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Mad Manic said:
I'd say Ronnie Coleman in 2005 Mr Olympia or Kevin Levrone in the 1999 British Grand Prix is about perfect. Anything smaller just looks weedy.

MM
I can never tell if you are being serious.
 

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I can never tell if you are being serious.
I am being serious.

MM
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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To each their own I guess :D

One area where you, Effort, and WBA can all agree...(although I hope they aren't so extreme).
 
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