"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how important is sex to you?

seethehoop

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This has prob been asked but its worth a debate.

How important to you is sex in a relationship?

my friend asked this girl I'm sort of seeing and then asked my opinion. we both said 90%

My mate said 60% cos he likes the comfort and everything else but to me this is still incorporated into sex.

what are your thoughts, how important is sex?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Leporello

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I need sex to be happy. I've tried to enjoy life without sex but it's like a sixth sense without which you can't really appreciate the other five.

It makes me calm, friendly, and kindly towards other people. Without it I'm grim, dull and irritable.

So...sex is pretty important. Wouldn't necessarily have to be in a relationship but that's usually how I get it.
 

SgtSplacker

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Sex is a deal breaker for me. Was dating a girl that was on prozak but didn't tell me. So her libido was compromised, I broke that shiz off quickly... I kinda felt bad later after knowing it was a meds thing. I guess I could have been more patient. But she could have been honest with me too.
 

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To be honest sex isnt a deal breaker for me but I want it when I want it or when she does to be honest. On stressful days its nice but on weeks like over the summer where im dedicated to training I keep my test. levels at base line and above 24/7 so sex less would be promising. Its a 50/50 . But if the girl ever said shes not into sex id leave lol
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The sad thing about relationships and marriages these days is that the decision to have sex is always the woman's.

Remember that sex is the glue that holds relationships together. Without it, you are just a friend, and best believe that your princess will be putting it out in another castle. Judge nismo's verdict.

Case closed. Exit stage left.
 

Purefilth

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nismo-4 said:
Case closed. Exit stage left.
hah! I moved the stairs! - you fall judgeman, you fall!:moon:
 

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Leporello said:
I need sex to be happy. I've tried to enjoy life without sex but it's like a sixth sense without which you can't really appreciate the other five.

It makes me calm, friendly, and kindly towards other people. Without it I'm grim, dull and irritable.
Doesn't that mean that all the rules this site preaches: improving yourself, kino, negging, etc, is irrelevant unless you get sex?

It's kind weird, we say don't focus on sex, it will come if you focus on yourself and be enthusiastic about life, learn things, improve yourself....but it all comes down to getting the sex from the girl. People don't care about that other stuff, we live in an instant gratification world, we just want the result legally with a good boost to our ego.

It's essence, we should just say "sell yourself to get sex legally with in the first 2 dates." All the other stuff, be the alpha male, be the beta male, be curious about people, laugh, smile, joke, be interesting....it's all good, but if it doesn't get you the sex, there's no point.

Wonder how many people here would trade 10 months of improving themselves with 2 months of sex with a good looking girl.
 

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Trump said:
Doesn't that mean that all the rules this site preaches: improving yourself, kino, negging, etc, is irrelevant unless you get sex?

It's kind weird, we say don't focus on sex, it will come if you focus on yourself and be enthusiastic about life, learn things, improve yourself....but it all comes down to getting the sex from the girl. People don't care about that other stuff, we live in an instant gratification world, we just want the result legally with a good boost to our ego.

It's essence, we should just say "sell yourself to get sex legally with in the first 2 dates." All the other stuff, be the alpha male, be the beta male, be curious about people, laugh, smile, joke, be interesting....it's all good, but if it doesn't get you the sex, there's no point.

Wonder how many people here would trade 10 months of improving themselves with 2 months of sex with a good looking girl.
That's 5 months with a 8+! I'm all in and I use that term loosely. :D

Men can improve themselves, make more money, get the fancy cars, use new forms of game, bring a 2012 sense of humor, be romantic, take more girls out, be interesting, have more hobbies, etc. ad nauseum. All fine and dandy.

At the end of the day, it's the woman who's making the final say on whether or not you get to have sex with her. Or be her boyfriend. Or be her friend. Or be her best friend. Or be among her orbiters. Or be her beta provider. Or be her ego booster. Or be her emotional tampon. Etc. ad nauseum.

Male choice is hardly ever enforced. Female choice is almost always enforced enstead.

Bad. :mad:
 
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Sex is important, there is nothing worse than being in a passionless, sexless relationship/marriage.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Depends on the girl. If she's boring and I hate her no amount of sex will make it ok.
 

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I put it in the same category as eating, drinking and sleeping. We're kinda designed to do all of them...
 

Alle_Gory

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Cremasta said:
I put it in the same category as eating, drinking and sleeping. We're kinda designed to do all of them...
Yes but you won't eat any old gruel no matter how much you get, you won't drink any old swill and you won't sleep on the floor of a crack den. A man has standards.
 

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Hey guy's, i've been off this site for ages now.

Anyhow, i'm now with this girl who considers me her boyfriend.but she's not the type of girl who put's out real easy.

I mean she said to me she never grasped the tounge kissing thing.

So to me she's screaming virgin in my mind, i don't mind too much, just abit of a stress to work out how to actually get her to be more sexual with me.

Oh and i've gone out with her like 6 times now. haha
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alle_Gory said:
Yes but you won't eat any old gruel no matter how much you get, you won't drink any old swill and you won't sleep on the floor of a crack den. A man has standards.
Not all men have standards, there's a lot of desperados out there who would pound a fat midget if given half the chance.
 

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perseverance said:
Not all men have standards, there's a lot of desperados out there who would pound a fat midget if given half the chance.
And what's wrong with fat midgets? :)
 

Alle_Gory

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perseverance said:
Not all men have standards, there's a lot of desperados out there who would pound a fat midget if given half the chance.
Well... I guess someone has to take care of the trash.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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