How importance is smiling for a DJ?

[viking22]

Im a serious guy and smiling just does not come naturally to me. I guess Im the kind of person who keeps his feelings to himself so has a poker face most of the time. On the one hand it seems to help me because girls often ask me what Im thinking and say Im mysterious and they cannot read me. But then again most of the players I know have a killer smile that they use to good effect.

Im trying to learn to smile more but it feels a strain when im faking and turns into more of a grimace.

How important is a smile? Obviously you gotta smile at a girl when you say hello or if you are eyeing her up from across the room. But is it necessary to smile the whole time you talk to her?

 

[Warrior74]

I'm a pretty serious faced person. I've had random people walk up and ask me what I was mad about when I was just concentrating on something or thinking about something. Or people telling me to cheer up because I looked pissed. This was because I was mainly in my head. worried about everything and everyone or worried about my life/bills/woman drama etc.

Eventually as I learned to be more in the moment and crawl out of my skull my face relaxed. As I learned to appreciate my life, to have grattitude for the things that God has given me, I relaxed more. As I learned to appreciate the moment and the people I'm with and not to be afraid of people I found myself smiling more. A real smile, not a fake grimace. A real smile comes from within.

Let yourself smile that big goofy three year old with some candy smile. The one you are afraid to show because you think it will make you look silly. Smile that one a bit. Enjoy life, and enjoy the moment and enjoy other people.

Sorry to get all hippy dippy on ya, but that's what I know.

As for women, I smile when I feel it. If they say something funny or I'm talking about a good memory or good time I smile naturally. The key is being in touch with yourself that you can let your self be natural. If I don't feel like smiling then I don't, I may look interested, but not mean or confused. You don't have to be grin like an idiot in a girls face, in fact I advise you not to. Be natural. Good Luck.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Smiling is very important, when you're approaching a girl you don't want to have this pissed off face or else she'll think you're trying to rape her or something. Yeah huge exaggeration but I used to be like that, never smiling and had this mean look to me, this was back in high school, people thought I was intimidating and someone described me as scary looking...

People who don't smile are probably self conscious about it, they're afraid their smile looks ugly. What I did to change myself is looking in the mirror for 30 minutes and trying out different smiles. Seriously it works.