I’m an almost 22yr old university student, who has been taking almost five years to complete a three year course. I have hardly any friends; people generally think I am either spaced out and weird, or arrogant and aloof, depending on the situation. I used to have mild social anxiety didn’t lose my virginity until late. I still live at home with overbearing parents and only earn $123 a week working a ****ty job involving heavy lifting one day a week. My life revolves around the web of lies I’ve spun in order to avoid being kicked out of home. I am such a catch.
I constantly get asked at work if I want extra shifts, but I am so lazy the thought of being there more than one day a week is too much for me. I never, ever go clothes shopping, I just get my mum to buy me clothes and if I don’t like them she returns them and gets something else. Of the main 5 people that I hang around with 3 are still virgins, 2 are in 4yr+ LTRs.
Now one thing the community would try to teach me is that to become better first I must fake confidence. Then as I start seeing success I will develop real confidence. However, that is bullsh1t because I cant be arsed dealing with the pressure of going out in the ‘field’ and faking confidence, it reduces the fun factor of going out for me and the build up to each night is full of anxiety. I want confidence straight off the bat.
I only run game in bars and maybe clubs if I feel like it. I’m average looking with one caveat that gives me an advantage in bars, I am 6’2. 190lbs. I can’t pull chicks based on looks alone; I know this as fact based on experiences from my AFC days.
What helps me with approach anxiety and turns me into an approacher, #/K and occasionally F-closer is for me to embrace what I like to call the Anti-Confidence. Essentially what I mean by that is to shift my paradigm for being confident to encompass all the traits that make me a loser. This way I feel no fear when approaching, I’ve got nothing to lose, I’m not the prize, neither is she, so fvck it I’m gonna attempt to get laid either way.
Also, as a side point I do not rate girls using the HB scale. If I’d fvck ‘em I approach ‘em, some call this the binary system. I get annoyed at AFCs who refuse to approach because the girl doesn’t meet their standard. I would say 90% of girls you see out on a weekend between ages 18-28 are Fable.
I totally accept my loser status and that I am the cause for it. I am not bitter about it.
None of this is new but its working for me, Ide post FRs but I cbf.
“A rogue is never more charming than when he admits to his roguishness”
I constantly get asked at work if I want extra shifts, but I am so lazy the thought of being there more than one day a week is too much for me. I never, ever go clothes shopping, I just get my mum to buy me clothes and if I don’t like them she returns them and gets something else. Of the main 5 people that I hang around with 3 are still virgins, 2 are in 4yr+ LTRs.
Now one thing the community would try to teach me is that to become better first I must fake confidence. Then as I start seeing success I will develop real confidence. However, that is bullsh1t because I cant be arsed dealing with the pressure of going out in the ‘field’ and faking confidence, it reduces the fun factor of going out for me and the build up to each night is full of anxiety. I want confidence straight off the bat.
I only run game in bars and maybe clubs if I feel like it. I’m average looking with one caveat that gives me an advantage in bars, I am 6’2. 190lbs. I can’t pull chicks based on looks alone; I know this as fact based on experiences from my AFC days.
What helps me with approach anxiety and turns me into an approacher, #/K and occasionally F-closer is for me to embrace what I like to call the Anti-Confidence. Essentially what I mean by that is to shift my paradigm for being confident to encompass all the traits that make me a loser. This way I feel no fear when approaching, I’ve got nothing to lose, I’m not the prize, neither is she, so fvck it I’m gonna attempt to get laid either way.
Also, as a side point I do not rate girls using the HB scale. If I’d fvck ‘em I approach ‘em, some call this the binary system. I get annoyed at AFCs who refuse to approach because the girl doesn’t meet their standard. I would say 90% of girls you see out on a weekend between ages 18-28 are Fable.
I totally accept my loser status and that I am the cause for it. I am not bitter about it.
None of this is new but its working for me, Ide post FRs but I cbf.
“A rogue is never more charming than when he admits to his roguishness”
