"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How I became from nothing to something --->Some Inspiration

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This is my first "motivation/inspiration" post. I'm writing this for two reasons:

1) I wanted to let you that it is possible to go from rock bottom and climb up.

When I was younger I was:

- Shy to the point of seeing a psychiatrist (don't laugh it happens)
- a dork that got picked up/beaten up (taking martial arts helped change that)
- borderline suicidal (lol of course im not anymore)
- a person with one friend through all of elementary school. Even he would avoid me at times
- Needless to say, without a single girl. Not a single one. Didn't even have the courage to think about that.

Now:
- MUCH more attractive looking (working out helps)
- No longer shy
- Wouldn't say im a top lady killer but i do have my line up (working out helped)
- Have many friends and nothing to be depressed over
- Women aren't a problem

2) I can't sleep....I drank too much cola!

Things I learnt:

1) You have to believe a hot girl will like you (Confidence): When i started working out and sliming down, girls noticed me. Couple of them showed OBVIOUS interest signals (e.g. a cold approach from a girl, although the content may be non sexual, is an interest sign! didn't realize that).
Go look in the mirror, and if you can't believe a girl can fall in love with you, work out or do something that makes you more confident.
And, if you are wondering more than once if she likes you, she probably does! And plus think about it, you find tons of girls attractive dont you? She probably finds you attractive if another girl felt the same.

2) There is NO MAGICAL PILL THAT will solve all your girl problems. Thats right. You just have to live and learn so stop searching for some post that will solve all your problems!

3) Again: Stop F--KING: worrying whether she's interest or not! You WILL NEVER KNOW! Trust me.......YOU BLOW OPPORTUNITIES THIS WAY. I KNOW CAUSE I BLEW ABOUT 3. (damn it..........and these girls were hot :S)

4) Its confidence you need: not looks. I realized that attractive when i slimmed down during high school. But it wasn't until month ago i had enough courage to walk up to any girl and ask for a number. Stop wishing you were better looking. Looks wont destory your fear; you just gotta remember tip #1 :believe that a hot girl can like you.

I'm sure someone's said these tips directly or indirectly sometime. But i hope it more effective coming from a guy like me who was no natural. Oh no. I started as close to the bottom as you can get and had to climb.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah someperson12, the thing about the gym giving more confidence is definetely true!

You know, I'm glad I found this site and all the "DJ World" because it keeps you improving yourself and gaining experience. Everything is a challenge and you not only learn to be more succesfull with women, but also being an overall better person.

It's always nice to hear stories like yours.

Iguana
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm kinda in the same boat as you,

I was loser up until my senior year in high school, no girls, no friends, etc

S'all good now though, I mean it could be a lot better, but im working on it
 
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