How has Meetup site worked for you?

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

ThisNThat

Banned

Apr 30, 2017

I would say a good majority of my social connections via Meetup has been my way of making new friends and meeting women.

I have known people to have met and even married through these groups.

I also found that instead of asking for the digits, I just contact the women via their messaging system when I got home with a "It was nice meeting/talking with you at Frank's BBQ party" and go from there.

With social media on the upswing, do you find that just going through social media communications to possibly trump the phone since they are pretty much one in the same?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.