How has Meetup site worked for you?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

ThisNThat

Banned

Apr 30, 2017

I would say a good majority of my social connections via Meetup has been my way of making new friends and meeting women.

I have known people to have met and even married through these groups.

I also found that instead of asking for the digits, I just contact the women via their messaging system when I got home with a "It was nice meeting/talking with you at Frank's BBQ party" and go from there.

With social media on the upswing, do you find that just going through social media communications to possibly trump the phone since they are pretty much one in the same?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.